(Closed) Will people be happy for us?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Yes they will be. Your coworker is dumb, do not listen to her.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Max04092010:  Maybe she thought you were hiding it because you didn’t plan it?  I dunno… I would maybe just explain to her that you’re still so early and you want to wait until after the first trimester to tell your parents, and that you really do want your parents to be the first to know.  Thank her for her discretion and keeping hush about it, and probably just let it go.  I doubt she meant any harm, and I don’t think anyone will be UNhappy for you.  Just relax, and take care of yourself- plenty of rest & hydration!!!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would think most reactions won’t be similar to that. I became pregnant at 22 and it was absolutely unplanned but never had anyone say something like that to me!

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@DaneLady:  +1

I think this is the case. I generally don’t spread the word about pregnancies unless specifically asked to. When I was in college, a lot of my friends got pregnant unexpectedly (It was bad for them, too) so I learned right quick to shut my yap. Sometimes, if I know someone well enough, I assume it was an unexpected/unwanted pregnancy, but I don’t voice my opinion.

I wouldn’t let your co-worker get to you. Perhaps she asked in poorly worded ways, but I don’t believe she genuinely meant you any insult or harm.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My guess is that it is an honest mistake and she misread you / misread why you wanted her to keep it a secret (i.e. you didn’t want anyone to know because you aren’t happy about being pregnant and might not continue the pregnancy.)  Beyond the online world of pregnancy forums, many people have never heard of people not telling others until after the first trimester and just assume that all eagerly wanted pregnancies are announced immediately by shouting it from the rooftops.

I’m sure everyone will be super excited when you finally get your chance to do just that.  She will probably be excited for you then, too.

 

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with pp that she probably though that since you were so secretive about it that YOU wern’t excited/ ready for it.

Of course everyone will be super excited for you!! Congrats!!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Max04092010:  There’s nothing to worry about! I’m positive your family will be over joyed! Besides if your happy that’s all that should matter especially if you’ve been trying for so long! It’s a huge blessing:) congratulations!

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think this was a honest mistake on her part. She probably thought you were keeping it a secret for a different reason other. I am pretty sure everyone is going to be over the moon excited for you when you tell them. Just becuase one person interrprets it one way doesn’t mean everyone else will take it that way.

The Bee is excited for you, if that makes you feel any better ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I agree with PPs. I think your family is going to be thrilled! 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - W Hotel Silicon Valley

@Max04092010:  Ugh, don’t listen to her! Of course they will be happy for you! It may help to tell a close friend or family member to get some positive reinforcement! People love babies! Good luck! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh I’m so sorry dear!  She had no right to say that…people just don’t think sometimes and there always seems to be that one or a few people who have no manners and can’t politely say congratulations at the news.  I’m sure most people you tell will be ecstatic for you, especially your families.  

My “one person” was my grandma, and I was not expecting her reaction at all, but everyone else, even the people I was nervous to tell, were very excited for us.  Don’t let one person’s un-thoughtful words bring you down.  

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m sure people will be happy for you! It sounds like your coworker is either really insensitive or just misunderstood your desire to keep the pregnancy quiet for now.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Welcome to the club of women who have had people say dumb shit to them while they are pregnant. Guess who is a member? EVERYONE who has ever been pregnant ๐Ÿ™‚ It won’t be the last stupid thing someone says to you before the baby is born, so blow it off. Don’t listen to her. Sounds like she was projecting her own feelings about pregnancy on you, or she may not know that people don’t tell anyone until they’re in the ‘safe’ zone and thought that’s why you haven’t told anyone yet.

And congratulations! Your family and friends will be over the moon excited for you, I promise!

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