Post # 1
Hello everyone! well i dont know why im worried about this but i am 🙂 being a typical girl… of course so my boyfriend and i have been together going on 7 years now. hes finishing up school and we’re thinking about getting married within the next year or two.. but heres my thing… i have two older brothers that both have been married and divorced both of them.. now they both have new girlfriends in their lives and one is actually getting married again not even being divorced for a year…. so another princess wedding 🙂 sorry.. well anyways i have a feeling that my other brother is going to be getting married again also.. so they will both be on their second weddings and my parents are still paying for their first weddings and all that blah blah.. i dont know.. but i feel like im not going to have the respect for my wedding… and im not talking money wise ! we are going to completely pay for our own wedding. but my uncles have already told my dad to take them off my brothers wedding list, if they needed to cut some people out, that scares me because i dont want people to compare my relationships to my brothers. i dont want them to consider coming to my wedding as a burden or think well we will be here again with another guy in about 2 years . lol sounds riduculous i know but it seriously freaks me out that no one will want to come to my wedding or if they do come they will be snickering .
Post # 3
are you crazy! of course its diferent!! you have been together for so so long and you are your own person!!
Maybe to really rub it in to everyone and make it public how different you are, you could make sure the vows/ readings are extra sentimental in comparison to a wham bam there you go you’re married type thing.
I think you should expect some inapropriate comments at the reception, and i think you should be ready with some light hearted comment or joke you can make to dismiss it. Maybe talk to your fiance about this so you’re both ready.
I know that I just had a family gathering where my grandfather mentioned something about having their 60th anniversary party at the same venue that my counsin got married at. (she is going through a divorce now, and wasnt there at the time of this comment) ..
the comment left an uneasy air in the room, so my cousin (the getting-divorce cousins brother) said ‘lets hope it doesnt set you up to end up like <cousin>’s marriage!’ … and we all had a laugh about it.
I think you will be fine. YOU know how different your relationship is. prove them wrong by having a long happy marriage!
Post # 4
I agree. You and your fiance are different. You can call and/or physically tell each of your friends and family members who will be invited to your wedding that you are engaged. This way you will have a chance to talk to each one of them and ask them how they feel about your news. This will allow you to filter out anything stupid that may cause them to not come to your wedding or to come full of mean comments.