will someone please tell me what is a foccus test?

posted 3 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Foccus is a pre-marriage philosophy…

You can GOOGLE for more info about it / the organization

And also check out their own website = http://www.foccusinc.com/


Post # 4
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

@Akbridezilla:  Our parish preist did this with us. It is a series of about 100+ questions that deal with your views on a wide range of topics (like religion, finances, etc.) which you and your FI are asked separately. They are designed to see how closely you both are on thinking and seem to be designed to start a discussion on topics that you are either not sure about or think of in a different way. Hope this helps 🙂

It took us about an hour to complete the test. We are just waiting for the results and to go for our next interview where we will go over the results and have discussions about whatever it is that we were not on thesame page about. For us we have talked about most things so we are not expecting a huge variance – it is more if you have not talked at all.

Post # 6
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Akbridezilla:  No it’s not timed, you can take as long as you need. I think it was somewhere around 150 questions, and it took me about an hour.  Some of the questions are a little confusing just from the way they are worded, but don’t let that freak you out if you read a confusing one!  Just answer it in the way you took the question to mean because you have the chance to explain the way you were thinking about it or to explain what you thought the question was asking when you have your meeting to go over your and FIs answers to the inventory.  There are no right or wrong answers, it’s just for stimulating conversation about things you might come across in married life!

Post # 7
3677 posts
Sugar bee

@Akbridezilla:  It’s actually an “inventory,” not a test, and it’s not the kind of thing you “pass” or “fail” – no need to worry!

It doesn’t actually have questions, either. Rather, you will get a whole bunch of statements, and you’ll select “Agree,” “Disagree,” or “Not Sure.” They will cover a range of topics: faith/religion and sexuality, but also things like communcation skills, finances, family relationships, drug and alcohol use, children, etc. Some examples are things like:

“It is important to me that we attend church regularly.”

“Sometimes my partner’s drinking is excessive.”

“My partner and I have discussed making a will.”

“I am concerned about how involved my partner’s parents will be in raising our children.”

“It is important to me to spend holidays with my family.”

Rather than “right/wrong” answers, there are “preferred” answers, and it also looks to see that partners’ answers match one another pretty closely. The inventory will flag statements where your answers DON’T match each other, where one or both of you answered “Not Sure,” or where one of your answers doesn’t align with the “preferred” answer, and then your facilitator (maybe the priest, or maybe a married couple from the parish that meets with you) will ask the two of you to talk about those issues. The basic idea is that if there are any of these areas that you haven’t discussed as a couple yet, FOCCUS prompts you to have those conversations, because they are important things to discuss ahead of committing to marrying someone.

Post # 8
3084 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Akbridezilla:  We didn’t have to take it. I guess it depends on your church.

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