Post # 1
I am generally a pretty crafty person, so DIY-ing much of our wedding is not just a money saver to me, it’s also stress relief and fun. Almost everything I am DIYing can be taken care of ahead of time (ie, will be done with at least a week before the wedding). I will have the entire month before our wedding completely free of work and/or school related responsibilities, so getting this stuff done ahead of time shouldn’t be a problem. The two things I want to DIY to actually save money are our flowers and cupcakes, but both of these must be done in the few days before the wedding.
We are not going to be using a florist at all. I have practiced making a simple rose dome bouquet and it turned out great. I am confident that I can make my bouquet/bridesmaids/boutonierres/corsages without much trouble on the day before the wedding. My stepmom has agreed to take care of arranging the altar flowers. Aside from that, we aren’t having any additional flowers.
The cupcakes though, are a newer idea. I am excited at the prospect of decorating a cupcake tree, which would be done well ahead of time. My plan is to bake around 200 cupcakes just from box mix (nothing fancy at all) two days before the wedding. One of my BM’s is talented at decorating cupcakes (she has her own blog about it) and she has agreed to pipe on the icing the day of or the day before. She thinks she could do it relatively quickly, within about two hours. They wouldn’t be ridiculously fancy…just plain piped on icing in our colors with maybe some sprinkles or something. I have already thought through the details of transport, etc. I should also add that I love to bake.
Is this a crazy idea? Most people I have told are telling me that doing my flowers is one thing, but that I should *really* reconsider doing the cupcakes myself. They say I will be too stressed and there will be too many last minute things that come up and that I might regret deciding to do the cupcakes myself.
To those who have already gotten married…is this a crazy idea? Were you bombarded with extra stuff in the few days before your wedding?
Thanks bees 🙂
Post # 3
200 cupcakes might be a bit much all by yourself. Enlist some help!
Also, I’d only attempt to do them if ALL the other DIY projects are done.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t want to tackle all that right before the wedding. My daughter just got married and we were so busy the few days before the wedding and we even had a DOC. We were getting our nails done, the rehearsal, rehearsal dinner, visiting with OOT guests, etc. Trying to do 2 such big projects would have been overwhelming.
Post # 5
Any other advice out there? 🙂
Post # 6
I think you need to expect the unexpected. Plan for things to go awry. Plan time to breathe and relax with your loved ones without having to busy yourselves. Plan time to look around and enjoy what is happening around you. Packing in every minute of the day with a project…not sure that’s such a good idea, especially the day before the wedding.
Post # 7
I have a friend who did her own cake(s!) for her giant mormon wedding of, like, 500. It did drive her crazy, but she probably is proud of it too.
Just have a back up plan for who is going to make 200 Betty Crockers if you have unexpected emergencies to tend to the days before, and you should be fine.
Post # 8
For our engagement party me, FI, and my mom made about 50 large cupcakes and 100 or more mini cup cakes. It didn’t really take that long. The longest part was the waiting for them to bake. Which you could be doing flowers when they are baking. We also have done a trial run of our flowers, and it didn’t take nearly what we expected. So I say go for it. I think that it will be fun.
Post # 9
I think you should go for it!
I too am planning on doing alot of DIY to save money, including making 3 different flavours of truffles to make truffle bags as our gifts for guests (about 80 guests so about 240 truffles). I am also going to go to the flower markets the day before our wedding to buy flowers and make our table decorations for the reception. I will have my mum and mother in law to be here to help with the flowers but i am also wondering what everyone means when they say the days before the wedding are busy busy busy and that we wont have time to do any of this.
I think if you are organised enough to have all the last minute things and appointments out of the way the week before, there will not be that much left to do in the days before the wedding.
Post # 10
I say do it! Although I have no first-hand experience that this is a good idea!
I am doing the same thing. I am baking an entire dessert bar – cupcakes, cheesecakes, cookies, truffles, the whole shebang, (admittedly only for 40 people but this will be favours as well as buffet dessert so will probably be around 250 pieces) AND doing my flowers. I can see no reason why I won’t be able to pull this off.
Admittedly, my situation is probably a little easier than most, I will be staying at my venue for a few days beforehand (it is a holiday house) so I don’t have to worry with transporting anything or travelling, so I believe the only thing I will have to deal with in those days is the delivery of my rentals. And the boys can deal with those.
I really want to do this so I can be proud of my wedding, like Melini said. I want to know that we built it ourselves and all of it was us. As long as you are organised, and a good multitasker, as pinkhorse said, you’ll be fine.
Post # 11
Have you considered baking them a week out or at least a few days before, and then freezing them until you’re ready to frost?
Post # 12
i think this totally do-able. especially if you enlist some help you can bang out those cupckaes in a few hours. what will really held speed it up is using an ice cream scoop to put the batter in the pans. good luck!
Post # 13
@Lee_Ann: Good tip! I also like pouring the whole bowl of batter into a big zip-lock bag, snip off the corner and squeeze it into the pans. This is something else that makes it so much easier.
Post # 14
Our situation sounds very similar to yours. My mom, sister and I baked and decorated the cupcakes just like you’re planning. We also used box mix, which I actually tend to prefer over scratch. I also worked on other last minute DIY stuff while we were waiting for each batch to bake.
I took the week off before the wedding to take care of DIY stuff, and don’t regret it at all. I enjoyed the bonding time with my mom, sister, and a few others who helped out. If you’ve got a month ahead of time to work on stuff uninterrupted, I don’t see a problem with it.
But then, I also helped out with decorating the reception venue the morning of our wedding, which a lot of people think is too much to take on and still have time to relax. But if you like to do things yourself, I would go for what you’re planning, because otherwise “relaxing” time will just turn into “will the time to go to the ceremony just hurry up and GET HERE already”!
Post # 15
@pohget: thanks, thats how we do our muffins at the bakery i work in. i like the plastic bag thing too. we do that for filling fudge tarts and tassies. the reason we use the scoop for things like muffins and cupcakes is so that they will all come out the same size, easier portion control.
Post # 16
It just depends on how you handle stress and what your situation is. I was planning to do my own flowers until I started looking at my schedule for the wedding weekend… Most of my guests are coming in from out of town and I don’t get to see them very often. PLUS, my rehearsal is at 2:30 the day before the wedding, followed immediately by the rehearsal dinner, then a welcome party for the oot guests. (2/3 of my guest list of 150 has to fly in.)
SO, I ultimately decided that I’d much rather spend the time with everyone coming to see me and fork out the money to a florist than do it myself and save $500. It just wasn’t worth the hassle and time away from my guests to me.
If your guests are more local and your time schedule works out, like others said you could bake cupcakes and do flowers at the same time. It probably wouldn’t be that bad, especially if you have a system all worked out.