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What a cute pup! Having a puppy is a HUGE adjustment and is a lot of work. we were not newly weds when we got our pup but she sure was a ton of work!
I had a husky growing up! I wouldnt call it crazy.... lol but they defiantly have special personality! I loved my husky so much he was so protective over my brother and I! Other huskies I have come into contact with also are very protective over their human siblings as well so this is a plus if you decide to have children. The best thing I would suggest is to make sure you exercise her often she should be a little more calm, but the dogs have an amazing spirit about them! A funny story about ours is that he ate through our kitchen wall into our built in cabinets in the dining room... they are trouble makers but adorable trouble makers at that! I hope things get better!
Wow ~ what a gorgeous dog!!! It's tough. We have a puppy who is six and a half months old....he still has accidents in the house...lots of puppy energy, bites the cat. It's frustrating and a lot of work. Seriously, your dog is way beautiful.....having some dog envy here.
You are definitely not alone. We adopted our puppy one month after getting married, and looking back, I wish we would have waited a little longer, because in some ways you are right-- the honeymoon period was cut a little short.
Puppies are a LOT of work and there were several points when we both felt completely overwhelmed by our new addition (and a little embarassed--I mean, we are two working adults, we should be able to handle a dog, right?). The first few months were especially difficult as we all had to adjust to the change in routine.
Now our dog is fifteen months old and things are SO MUCH EASIER. We love him to bits and both agree that he makes our life so much better. We still don't have the same carefree life that we did for a long time, where we could meet up for drinks after work and not worry about going home to take care of the dog, but to us it is worth it and good preparation, I think, for when we start a family down the road.
Hang in there. Take puppy training classes and talk about how you want to divide up the responsibilities. It will get better!
@FutureMrsChaney: Chewed through the cabinets?? We haven't had that yet, but she is very very hyper. We exercise her a lot, but she's a little over 8 weeks old -- truly a puppy -- so I expect it. It was my idea to get a husky over another breed and I'm reminded of that every time her stubborn self blatantly ignores me :)
@Maggie Mae: Thanks for replying. I was beginning to think I was a terrible person or something for getting so overwhelmed ... and sometimes pretty upset because I felt that I didn't get to enjoy being a newlywed anymore. But it definitely is rewarding! I think a lot of this is just post wedding blues. It all went by sooo fast and I want it back haha.
I can only imagine how sleep deprived you are writting this post as well. I adopted my youngest one in April (4 months before my wedding and 2 weeks before we closed on our house) so I remember how tiring and exhausted I was in the beginning. This is completely normal! There are a lot of adjustments and something that requires 100% of your attention and needs you to survive. Its an overwhelming feeling that is both amazing and stressful. The idea of knowing that you can never go straight out after work, cannot just pick up and go away for a night, etc. is an adjustment. But I promise you will get into your routine and the love you will get from your little puppy will make it all worth it!
She is a gorgeous puppy! I agree, I would take her for long walks to try and wear her out so she'll be more calm. I've heard of women being upset after the wedding because they don't have anything to plan. I would play with your puppy as much as you can as a couple. Go to the park with her and see if their are play groups in your area.
I think that its totally normal. There is always an adjustment period of "holy cow what did I get myself into." Puppies are especially hard. It'll get easier when she's older :)
@HannahT: Thank you for responding, it really helps! Like I said to Maggie Mae, I was beginning to feel like a terrible person and like I was alone in that feeling. DH doesn't necessarily feel the same way.. He LOVES dogs and I don't think he minds the adjustment as much as I do sometimes which makes me feel like there is something wrong with me haha.
@CorgiTales: Pssh, that's exactly how I feel sometimes! I'm like whyyyy did I NEED a puppy so bad?!
Also, you guys rock :)
After my wedding i kind of disappeared from WeddingBee. I just figured that I was married now, no longer dealing with the stresses of planning a wedding, etc.
But when I was feeling upset about the Koda situation I randomly decided to head to WB and found the pet section. So it's super awesome that there is such a supporting community here and it isn't totally limited to weddings.
Okay, that's all, I'll stop with the mushyness!
Maybe you need another side project that isn't the dog to help with PWB? Your puppy is too cute! Puppies are like babies and when they're going through their needy stage- all that planning doesn't seem nearly as rewarding as say, a wedding. It will get better!
Aww you aren't a bad person at all for feeling that way. Dogs, especially puppies, are incredibly frustrating at times. We adopted Toby, a silky terrier, over 2 years ago and I still feel that way sometimes.
He is WILD. Definitely calmer than he used to be, but still pretty wild. He pees on the carpet sometimes, steals socks and underwear, eats anything he can, etc. He has a weird thing about coat hangers too, I'll attach a picture.
He's a mess. It was definitely a big responsibility, sometimes I think that we didn't think it through all the way. We are busy people, and we lost a little of that spontaneous side that we had before we adopted him. He has to be let out to potty every 2-3 hours, eats 3 times a day, never spent a night alone, etc. We always have to make plans to have a "sitter" or have him boarded if we are going out of town.
Over the summer, he swallowed a rubber ball and had to have emergency surgery. FI was out of state, so I had to deal with it alone. It was hard. I was so scared I was going to lose him. Once he was safely out of surgery, I knew that no matter what, I wouldn't change adopting him for the world. He's a wild mess sometimes, but he's mine, and I love him with all my heart.
Stick with it. It gets better, I promise :-)
@sulaii211: Good idea! I should find a side project.. My ilfe revolves around work, college, Mr. Husky and now, Koda and I don't usually have time (or maybe make time?) just to chill out.
Adorable pup! We have a husky cross and boy do I know how much work that is! I swear sometimes I've gotten so far to the end of my rope with him (he's 8 months now) that I seriously considered whether or not I still wanted him. I ploughed through all the tough times though and now we are on our way to a great dog.
My friends and I had a good laugh....one of the girls said forget post-pardum I have post-puppy lol. Some puppies can be a handful and when you have that in addition to a new married life and whatever other responsibilities you have it can get frustrating!
Just stay strong and know that if you do the hard work you will be rewarded 100x + once your pup is all grown and you'll have an amazing dog :)
@Lindsay12.31.2010: He is sooo adorable :)
It's good to know it's not just me! Not that we were particularly spontaneous before, but now we can't be. We can't just go to the movies or go to the grocery store without worrying about how Koda is doing. She is crate trained so it's not like she is destroying the house (which she would do if given the chance) but as a puppy she has to potty pretty frequently.
You are so not alone. My FI and I weren't even engaged when we got out puppy together but it was a HUGE adjustment. There would be days where I would call FI at work just crying because I thought our dog didn't like me or wouldn't listen to me and I just couldnt handle it. I love my fur baby more than words can say, but some days you just can't help being frustrated. As your puppy grows up and requires less attention for basic needs it will be so much better i promise!
All dogs are a bit of work, especially puppies! Obviously you love her, but it can be overwhelming, finding yourself responsible for another living being. I wanted a dog for years, and when I finally brought my girl home I was so excited....and then the fear kicked in...because she looked at me, needing something...but what? I didn't know. She can't talk and I'd never done this before. Maybe she didn't actually need anything? Oh, and then you feel guilty every time you leave the house whithout her, and say goodbye to vacations for a little while. I have had my dog for three years and though I never regret getting her, there are definitely times she gets on my nerves. She's needy and I'm the one responsible for meeting those needs. It's a job...oh, but the love makes it so worth it. I have to say I never really felt that kind of love until I had this living being relying on ME to care for her. I love her so much...and she gives back ten-fold.
Hang in there it will get better! Puppies are a little crazy to get use to at first, they are just like little babies! They are so cute and cuddly and then they chew through your seat belt in the car, or destroy something and it's like ok hello reality! And I know how much trouble a little husky puppy likes to get in. Lots of activity and exercise is great for them, and this might seem silly but huskies love learning dog toys, like the doggy einstein toys, it challenges them and keeps them from getting into trouble.
PS I think we have the match to your little guy! Robo the dog on the left had almost the same mask when he was little!
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@mrshusky: OMG!!! i know exactly what you mean!! we have a siberian husky too and she's is a handleful!! my story is a little different....FH and I rescued a stray smaller dog that he fell in love with....at the time we had only been together for about 5 months and had been talking about getting a dog around our birthdays (both in sept) anyways, i felt bad because i didn't want to keep the stray but didnt want to hurt FH....we ended up deciding to find a new home for him but then FH was depressed afterwards....i felt soooo bad!! well, his best friend at the time decides (without our consent) to get him a Siberian Husky to cheer him up....it was the same breed we wanted to get for our birthdays and obviously we didnt feel right giving her back since she was a gift so now we can Colby and i'm the same i love her to death! but she's been soooooo much work and she's crazy and goofy and wants to play allllll the time!! she was 3 months old when we got her....FH and I aren't married yet but sometimes i feel like we missed out a bit on it just being ourselves since we got her so early in the relationship... so its sorta similar to how ur feeling i think!
here's my Colby and PapaHusky :-)
@sizzle: I don't think I've ever heard of learning dog toys? But she has definitely tired from the regular ones at Petsmart :) She removes the squeaker from the toy. She's a handful! And stubborn ... and grumpy. I know all dogs have a personality, but I've never met or had one with such a forceful personality. Thanks for posting the picture! I was wondering what her mask would end up looking like, because I know they fade/expand over time!
@missrobots: I feel so sad leaving her sometimes! We never have for longer than an hour ... And that was to grocery shop because we let the food get so low.
@MamaHusky3: Definitely similar! We dated for four years before getting married, so we definitely had time for it being just us. But I guess I wasn't necessarily ready to give up that special newlywed feeling :) Oh well, can't change that now. And he never had any preference on a breed but I have wanted a siberian husky since I was little!
@MamaHusky3: Oh, and she's beautiful! Koda loves to sleep on the couch with Mr. Husky. She tosses and turns, and groans when she can't get comfortable .. Or when I talk too loud during her naps!
@mrshusky:http://www.doggieeinstein.com/products these are the einstein toys... all the huskies we've had love them and as long as you take the time to show them what to do when you first get it, it will keep them entertained for hours!
I had a difficult time the first few days our dog, Sunday, came home to live with us. We adopted her the first week we moved into our new apartment, because she was a rescue we fell in love with. She had a really hard time warming up to us because she was abused, and she didn't go to the bathroom (besides submissive peeing) for a full day. On top of that, our two cats were so irritated/scared that they hid on the kitchen cabinets for a week and wouldn't snuggle with us. I felt guilty and stressed!
But everyone adjusted - Sunday is now so bonded with us it's adorable, and the cats have learned they can just give her a good whack and she'll go away.
Dont feel bad... Puppies are alot of work.. When my 10 month old rottie died under surgery :( i felt so empty.. Even though i still had my 3 year old Chi mix. I begged my husband (then fiance) for a puppy. Well one of my friends found a puppy on the freeway off ramp she posted signs, checked craigslist & No one claimed her. Well she couldn't keep her she was going thru a divorce, so she was going to take her to the pound.. I begged my husband to keep her (it was RIGHT before our wedding, the Month before) and i was like ohh it will help me not stress about the wedding... WRONG! the 2nd night home i stayed up almost all night wondering What the Heck i did and why did i do this to myself Puppies are alot of work! and you dont realize it. But 5 months later i'm so glad i stuck it out she is trained & loves my chi mix to death...
I'm right there with you! My husband and I have been married over a year, but we got a 3 month old puppy in September. We joke almost everyday that we think we made a poor life choice. We love our little guy, but our lives have been disrupted in ways we didn't even know were possible! Just tonight I called my dad crying (the hubs is on a guys' weekend and I didn't want to bother him) about how I didn't think I could handle another second with the dog. Well, it's 2 hours later and the little guy is finally sleeping & I feel like we can make it .... at least until the morning 
We're just holding out for that magical day in the future when we have the perfect dog because we stuck it out during the training days. And, of course, we'll never get a puppy again!
I bought my fiance a pure breed siberian huskey puppy for his 21st birthday and she was a handful! I think most puppies are but these dogs are smart and have big personalities so I think that has a lot to do with it. We aren't married yet but we just had a baby a few months ago and it has changed our lives even more drastically than the dog did. Once you get used to the puppy being around and learn her schedule things will get better. We had to lock our puppy out of the bedroom just so she wouldn't bother us at night and so she would know that was "our room" and she wasn't allowed in there. She knew once we went into our room she wasn't allowed to bother us and we could get in some time with just the two of us. They are very smart dogs. Teach her right and you will have pleanty of time to be with your husband.
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You are definitely NOT alone. We have 2 cats, neither of us have ever owned a dog... We adopted our puppy in Aug. and i feel like we can never just pick up and go. my family doesnt live near by and I used to travel more to see them. Its just not as easy picking up as it was before. and I cant help but think this is why I (read we) didnt want children. I like the freedom of traveling when I want, I dont have to rush home to let the dog out... Call me selfish but as much as I love my puppy shes a huge adjustment
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Hi.. So as I mentioned in the title, I'm not really sure why I'm posting this, but I feel like I need to get it out. My husband and I were married on July 17, and we just brought a siberian husky puppy home on Oct. 9, but we placed a deposit on the litter wayyy back in June before the mother even went into heat. So we've been planning this for a while.
But I guess.. I don't think I really thought about how much my life would change after bringing her home. Don't get me wrong, I love her so much and she's amazing.. I've always grown up with dogs, but this is our first puppy together. Sometimes i get upset because I'm no longer a newlywed, does that make sense? Obviously puppies aren't a crazy amount of work, but it is definitely an adjustment.
Am I alone in this? Did anyone else feel this way? Or adopt a puppy within a few months of being married? I just feel like until she is out of this crazy puppy stage (and she is crazy!), I can't relax at home and just be married.. I don't know what I'm trying to say.
As I said before. I love her, and if I could go back in time I would do it again. I just feel like a terrible person for being kind of sad.
Side note: This could be part of post wedding blues :(
Oh, and because I love to brag, here is my baby (Koda) and Mr. Husky:
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