Post # 1
Hi.. So as I mentioned in the title, I’m not really sure why I’m posting this, but I feel like I need to get it out. My husband and I were married on July 17, and we just brought a siberian husky puppy home on Oct. 9, but we placed a deposit on the litter wayyy back in June before the mother even went into heat. So we’ve been planning this for a while.
But I guess.. I don’t think I really thought about how much my life would change after bringing her home. Don’t get me wrong, I love her so much and she’s amazing.. I’ve always grown up with dogs, but this is our first puppy together. Sometimes i get upset because I’m no longer a newlywed, does that make sense? Obviously puppies aren’t a crazy amount of work, but it is definitely an adjustment.
Am I alone in this? Did anyone else feel this way? Or adopt a puppy within a few months of being married? I just feel like until she is out of this crazy puppy stage (and she is crazy!), I can’t relax at home and just be married.. I don’t know what I’m trying to say.
As I said before. I love her, and if I could go back in time I would do it again. I just feel like a terrible person for being kind of sad.
Side note: This could be part of post wedding blues 🙁
Oh, and because I love to brag, here is my baby (Koda) and Mr. Husky:
Post # 3
What a cute pup! Having a puppy is a HUGE adjustment and is a lot of work. we were not newly weds when we got our pup but she sure was a ton of work!
Post # 4
I had a husky growing up! I wouldnt call it crazy…. lol but they defiantly have special personality! I loved my husky so much he was so protective over my brother and I! Other huskies I have come into contact with also are very protective over their human siblings as well so this is a plus if you decide to have children. The best thing I would suggest is to make sure you exercise her often she should be a little more calm, but the dogs have an amazing spirit about them! A funny story about ours is that he ate through our kitchen wall into our built in cabinets in the dining room… they are trouble makers but adorable trouble makers at that! I hope things get better!
Post # 5
Wow ~ what a gorgeous dog!!! It’s tough. We have a puppy who is six and a half months old….he still has accidents in the house…lots of puppy energy, bites the cat. It’s frustrating and a lot of work. Seriously, your dog is way beautiful…..having some dog envy here.
Post # 6
You are definitely not alone. We adopted our puppy one month after getting married, and looking back, I wish we would have waited a little longer, because in some ways you are right– the honeymoon period was cut a little short.
Puppies are a LOT of work and there were several points when we both felt completely overwhelmed by our new addition (and a little embarassed–I mean, we are two working adults, we should be able to handle a dog, right?). The first few months were especially difficult as we all had to adjust to the change in routine.
Now our dog is fifteen months old and things are SO MUCH EASIER. We love him to bits and both agree that he makes our life so much better. We still don’t have the same carefree life that we did for a long time, where we could meet up for drinks after work and not worry about going home to take care of the dog, but to us it is worth it and good preparation, I think, for when we start a family down the road.
Hang in there. Take puppy training classes and talk about how you want to divide up the responsibilities. It will get better!
Post # 7
@FutureMrsChaney: Chewed through the cabinets?? We haven’t had that yet, but she is very very hyper. We exercise her a lot, but she’s a little over 8 weeks old — truly a puppy — so I expect it. It was my idea to get a husky over another breed and I’m reminded of that every time her stubborn self blatantly ignores me 🙂
@Maggie Mae: Thanks for replying. I was beginning to think I was a terrible person or something for getting so overwhelmed … and sometimes pretty upset because I felt that I didn’t get to enjoy being a newlywed anymore. But it definitely is rewarding! I think a lot of this is just post wedding blues. It all went by sooo fast and I want it back haha.
Post # 8
I can only imagine how sleep deprived you are writting this post as well. I adopted my youngest one in April (4 months before my wedding and 2 weeks before we closed on our house) so I remember how tiring and exhausted I was in the beginning. This is completely normal! There are a lot of adjustments and something that requires 100% of your attention and needs you to survive. Its an overwhelming feeling that is both amazing and stressful. The idea of knowing that you can never go straight out after work, cannot just pick up and go away for a night, etc. is an adjustment. But I promise you will get into your routine and the love you will get from your little puppy will make it all worth it!
Post # 9
She is a gorgeous puppy! I agree, I would take her for long walks to try and wear her out so she’ll be more calm. I’ve heard of women being upset after the wedding because they don’t have anything to plan. I would play with your puppy as much as you can as a couple. Go to the park with her and see if their are play groups in your area.
Post # 10
I think that its totally normal. There is always an adjustment period of “holy cow what did I get myself into.” Puppies are especially hard. It’ll get easier when she’s older 🙂
Post # 11
@HannahT: Thank you for responding, it really helps! Like I said to Maggie Mae, I was beginning to feel like a terrible person and like I was alone in that feeling. DH doesn’t necessarily feel the same way.. He LOVES dogs and I don’t think he minds the adjustment as much as I do sometimes which makes me feel like there is something wrong with me haha.
Post # 12
@CorgiTales: Pssh, that’s exactly how I feel sometimes! I’m like whyyyy did I NEED a puppy so bad?!
Post # 13
Also, you guys rock 🙂
After my wedding i kind of disappeared from WeddingBee. I just figured that I was married now, no longer dealing with the stresses of planning a wedding, etc.
But when I was feeling upset about the Koda situation I randomly decided to head to WB and found the pet section. So it’s super awesome that there is such a supporting community here and it isn’t totally limited to weddings.
Okay, that’s all, I’ll stop with the mushyness!
Post # 14
Maybe you need another side project that isn’t the dog to help with PWB? Your puppy is too cute! Puppies are like babies and when they’re going through their needy stage- all that planning doesn’t seem nearly as rewarding as say, a wedding. It will get better!
Post # 15
Aww you aren’t a bad person at all for feeling that way. Dogs, especially puppies, are incredibly frustrating at times. We adopted Toby, a silky terrier, over 2 years ago and I still feel that way sometimes.
He is WILD. Definitely calmer than he used to be, but still pretty wild. He pees on the carpet sometimes, steals socks and underwear, eats anything he can, etc. He has a weird thing about coat hangers too, I’ll attach a picture.
He’s a mess. It was definitely a big responsibility, sometimes I think that we didn’t think it through all the way. We are busy people, and we lost a little of that spontaneous side that we had before we adopted him. He has to be let out to potty every 2-3 hours, eats 3 times a day, never spent a night alone, etc. We always have to make plans to have a “sitter” or have him boarded if we are going out of town.
Over the summer, he swallowed a rubber ball and had to have emergency surgery. FI was out of state, so I had to deal with it alone. It was hard. I was so scared I was going to lose him. Once he was safely out of surgery, I knew that no matter what, I wouldn’t change adopting him for the world. He’s a wild mess sometimes, but he’s mine, and I love him with all my heart.
Stick with it. It gets better, I promise 🙂
Post # 16
@sulaii211: Good idea! I should find a side project.. My ilfe revolves around work, college, Mr. Husky and now, Koda and I don’t usually have time (or maybe make time?) just to chill out.