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I think everyone has a different definition of "vintage."  I kept saying I was going for a "vintage" look, but what I think I really meant was that I was going for a timeless look.

I bought a new dress, but people kept asking me if it was my mother's or grandmother's because of the antique lace style I chose.  I also wore a lace mantilla veil, like I have seen in photos for many generations.  I didn't have "colors" but rather picked centerpieces and invitations that seemed to compliment one another instead of looking really "matchy."  There was no one color that slapped you in the face as being the "wedding color."  Everything was soft and elegant without looking stuffy.

In the end, the wedding really did turn out timeless.  Was it vintage?  Maybe not.  But it could have been my mother's wedding and it probably could have been her mother's wedding.

I think "vintage" becomes an issue when it is more of a gimmick or theme.

I think that there are some definite trends toward the simply elegant, and DIY. Will this look dated? Of course, eventually everything does. But think of how we view different eras - they are all about personal taste when it comes right down to it. Once you are removed from an era you were part of, you tend to be drawn to what you like, and that determines what you think is "classic" vs "outdated." 

Bottom line - if you love your wedding now, you will love it in 20 years. It will not be some people's taste, and others will adore it. It's been that way for years and it will continue to be!

I don't think "vintage" weddings are the only idea that will be dated.  I think it is the idea of "theme" weddings in general.  Until recently, I don't really remember themes.  The theme was always "So & So are getting married" and that was about it.  And a lot of times the location or season of the wedding would sort of naturally and subtley worm its way into the wedding.  Now everything is heavily and intentionally coordinated.  And I bet after awhile, there will be a new movement away from that.

lol. I am a having a vintage glam wedding. I am with Jocelyn. It is more like classic. I am not worried about it dating only because I am not doing this because of it being trendy. But more because I have always been a vintage girl. I wanted the wedding to reflect me. Makes sense?

i can see where you are coming from.  I think that the distinction is like how miss yap described it - her vintage glam wedding is happening b/c she is a vintage girl.  Now, if you're in the early planning stages and throwing out ideas like, preppy polka dots!  vintage tea party! urban fairytale! cinderella and the city!  etc, then you're not really following the "trend" that is most you, but thinking of how to make your wedding stylized and beautiful.  I think that if these styles accurately reflect your tastes on any other day, then it's safe to say you won't cringe looking at the photos in your album 20 years later (at least, style wise - hopefully your wedding photos make you super happy, haha).

I don't know how i'd describe our vibe at all.  Maybe that is a good thing!

If someone is actually wearing something antique, something truly "vintage" -- a real dress from the 1920s, a true Victorian antique dress, an antique cameo, even a true reproduction dress from, say, a genuine 1952 design -- it won't especially date.

(Beyond certain decades being trendy during certain later decades. Like, in the 1970s, the 1930s were in, and lots of brides went for a Gatsby or Bonnie and Clyde look. Which of course did date to certain extent, especially so if it was really "1930s by way of 1970s" fashion, as opposed to the real article.)

But of course the "vintage style" look of today will TOTALLY date. Fascinators and birdcage veils and headbands and colored shoes and feathers -- all of those are something created today to look supposedly "vintage," but are really just today's aesthetic. Yes, they're very stylish today. But, yes, they will look "so 2010!!" in another 10 or 15 years. It's inevitable. This is just how it is.

I don't agree that handmade things, per se, will necessarily look specifically like relics of 2009 or 2010 a few years -- handmade isn't a style or an aesthetic, it's just how it was made. But of course, if it's a trendy/today look, a la Etsy (feathered fascinator, peacock-feather-and-pinecone bout, etc etc), it will look just as dated as a chain-store-bought trendy/today item.

Tracking fashion trends is actually, literally, my business. And... I just know, for sure, that this is true. (It's, like, my life's work....for what that's worth.)

I think I will be just as happy 10 years from now with my wedding!

Doh!  That is what my wedding was missing.  A floral bonnet for my flower girl.  Glad I remembered to get straw hats for my bridesmaids, though.

I can't imagine how they would. For most people, vintage means anything from 1930s to 1960s and all of those are classic looks. If someone was going for 1970s-1990s feel then it would look dated. Truthfully, it won't look any more dated than the wedding pictures of someone who actually got married during those times. 

I think more likely than not it would be the shabby chic vintage that will very rapidly age. Which in my mind is different from the vintage glam look. Think about the shabby chic era in decor in the 90s kind of deal.

So I think there are some things that are classics.  Even if they aren't the current trend they still look good.  And I think that well put together weddings will look well put together 50 years from now.  But I also think peoples preferences will change and even if something looked fine now it will not be the preference in the future.  And of course there's certain styles that are just  done now because they are a trend. 

I guess stuff like the birdcage - it's probably a bit of a trend but some people look great in them and looking back that's not going to change.  But then with people like me, I just looked goofy, and it would definatley look like I was just hoping on the boat if I wore one.