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If she received it but hasn't called you it is probably because 1) she wants to say no, but doesn't know how to or 2) she is just really busy and hasn't had a chance to call you yet.
If you haven't heard from her by tomorrow afternoon or Sunday, give her a call. Just ask her if she got something special in the mail. If she wants to be a BM she will probably tell you yes right away. If you sense she is hesitating, than be gracious and jump in and say you know she will be busy with her wedding and you understand if she doesn't want to be a BM/don't expect her to do much if she is a BM/whatever....
I am having the exact same issue. But the person that hasn't responded is FSIL.....unless it is completely lost in the mail I don't see how she hasn't gotten it. 2 of the other girls live within a few miles of her and there's arrived on the same day all in one piece. What to do what to do!!!!
Thanks Janna! Good advice on the jumping in to save her from having to say it. I really would understand ... I just want to know!
Good luck Jaime! Let me know how it goes!
Hi there, I just went through EXACTLY the same thing, having sent cards to my bridesmaids. I was missing two responses and was starting to fret when I got letters in response from both of them. They mentioned that the card was so special they thought it warranted a handwritten response! So sweet.
Santababs has a good point - because that's exactly what I did. When my friend sent me a beautiful little card asking me to be her MOH, I first made myself think it over for 24 hours because it is a big commitment, and then I spent a day or two working on the perfect handwritten response. I inadvertently made the bride nervous that I hadn't gotten it or I didn't want to participate, which wasn't my intention at all.
Do you ever e-mail with her? You could just drop her a casual e-line asking "did you get anything in the mail from me?" This is what my bride-friend eventually did, and I responded, "yep, and you should be getting something in the mail from me soon!"
I had just wanted the response to be as special as the request... that might be what your friend is doing, too.
***Update***
She said yes!!
And she asked me to be in HERS!!
And I said yes!
Long story short two things happened - she didn't receive it until Thursday because she was visiting her grandmother who is ill ... and then she was planning on writing back to me, but then when I called her Sunday night she realized I was probably going crazy with no response - and so she gave me a call. We're getting dinner on Wednesday when she is home for a visit to celebrate! Thanks for listening to me!
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Quick question: Last Friday I sent out homemade cards asking my girls to be in my wedding ... they're all spread out over the country so it was easiest to do it this way. All but one loved it and called me immediately and said yes, yes, yes!! The last one hasn't called me though. It's been a whole week, and though I know USPS isn't the fastest she is in NYC and I am in Boston and I know at least one got to NYC already, so I think I've given it enough time.
So here's my question -- Do I call her and slyly ask if she's checked her mail? Maybe it just got lost in the mail? But maybe she did get it and doesn't want to be in my wedding, but doesn't know how to tell me. (Which I can understand because she just decided her wedding will be one month before mine, so it might be too close.)
I dont want to pressure her, but I do just want to know if she at least got the card. My mom said to wait til the end of the weekend. Thoughts?