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I will but a friend on my Refuses to and decided her kidds will have hyphenated last names! My DH would have a fit if i chose not to take his last name. What do you think?
Well, the idea is yes, but I am 3 months over the wedding, and still haven't taken care of it. It's just such a headache, so much paperwork! But I have the intention...maybe it'll happen in time for Christmas! :)
My DH an I are very traditional so I took his, but I have had a difficult time professionally because of it. I have worked under my last name for 25 years, built a reputation on it, and that is how everyone knows me. When I am at a political event or signing up for one, I have to hyphenate my last name or these people are "tks who?"
@allieluvs21: I had a post like this.. and at the time I created the post I was for sure hyphenating my name, I would still have my children have his last name but just have my name hyphenated..
my FI like yours is really keen on the idea of me taking his name.. but I don't know if I can give up my name :( he's okay with me hyphenating it!!! but sometimes I think I should either keep mine or just take his.. I don't know if I want a hyphenated name..
ahhh I'm so confused :( & the wedding is so close!!! I'm dreading getting the marriage license haha.. not really I'm excited but I need to make up my damn mind on the name!!!
I plan to take his last name, but have not done so. He plans to change his last name as well. So, I'm waiting for him to start the process then I'll start.
@cutexkitty: what is he changing his last name to? yours? sorry I'm confused :)
Changed mine, it finally started feeling normal 6 months later.
I plan to take his. I'm super excited share the same last name.
@pandaboo: Your maiden name goes on the marriage license, you don't need to make a decision before the wedding.
I did. I always knew that I would take my husbands name but the transition wasn't easy. It was weird to wake up one day and all of a sudden be someone else. I was CaitMarae (insert last name) for 25 years so having a different last name has been an adjustment. I did entertain the idea of hyphenating it but DH's family would have had a fit.
I am in the process --- and let me tell you, you better budget some name change money in your wedding buget! Things are adding up like crazy and its the worst three ring circus I have ever attended. Snail mail, waiting in long lines, and Fees are what you have to look forward to , should you choose ;)
I'm definitely taking my FH's last name. I can't wait to have his last name for a multitude of reasons. But even since I was little I couldn't wait to get rid of my last name because I've always hated it. If my last name had more of a family importance to me (like if I had the same last name as my mom, which I don't), then I could see not wanting to change it. But I really like the traditional taking of the husband's last name.
My FI is traditional so he wants me to take his name which works out, because I'm traditional too and although I prefer my last night, I still would never keep it. So I'm taking his.
@LGenz: really?? omg my stepdad told me I'd need to decide by the time we get our license !
i did want to keep mine , but my SO was not happy and neither was his dad.. so i guess i can keep my LOVELY last name for only 10 more months :(
@pandaboo I'm waiting for him to change his last name to his step dad last name. I know it's confusing . lol
I will keep my last name and he will keep his. We have agreed that if we have kids, they will take my last name.
I kept my last name. I always knew that I would no matter who I married. I come from a really small family, there are four people that share my name with me in the country. DH was not happy about it but understood that it was important to me. Our future kids will have just his last name.
Nope. Keeping my name. Fiance is not super happy about it, but he is not putting up a fuss as it's my decision. I did take his opinion into consideration. I just really don't want to change my name, so I still decided against it.
Not sure what we will do about kids. Don't have to worry about that for a long time, though. If ever.
I am getting married simply to take my new husbands last name
No not really (I do adore him too) but when I got divorced I made the fatal mistake of keeping my ex-husbands last name which is Stacey.
So everyone calls me Stacey or Ms Stacey
well it was not great but then my ex started dating a woman named Stacey and they are married and she took his name - yup Stacey Stacey and my kids call her Miss Stacey which sounds awfully like Ms Stacey
So even though my new last name is a bit unpronounceable I am taking it with glee
I'm doing something in between. I plan to socially assume my fiancee's last name after we are married, but I am not going to legally change my name. This is the best compromise for me for both professional and personal reasons. I get to keep my own last name in a professional capacity - which is important, as I have spent years building up my professional identify - but I will exclusively go by his last name in social situations. This is especially important for me when we have kids because I want to appear like I have the same last name as them!
There was no way I was going to simply change my last name. It wasn't even an option for me personally. DH was incredibly supportive, and before the wedding, we decided that we both wanted to hyphenate our last names so that we would have the same last name and could both still keep our names.
After the wedding, though, we felt really reluctant to change our names. There are a lot of reasons, but ultimately, we weren't comfortable changing our names. And so, for now at least, I'm keeping my last name as is and so is DH. We're still in love, committed to each other, and just as married as anybody else. Obviously our choice isn't for everyone, but I'm glad we're doing what is best for us. I'm also really thankful that DH never forced a decision I was uncomfortable with and that he has loved and supported me throughout the process.
I'm taking his last name. Mine and his are both equally "easy" to spell and pronounce and there is no bad stigma with either name from family drama or whatnot so I have no reason to keep my last name. Plus, I am very traditional! :)
I took DH's last name. I'm traditional and wouldn't have it any other way.
I took my husband's last name. We are very traditional & I couldn't wait to be Mrs. Estep! :-)
I'm really undecided. If I do, I'm hyphenated. But I already am =/ so I want go get rid of my father's name but Idk if I want the hassle.
I never thought I'd want to take someone else's last name until I met my fiancé. I want our kids to have the same last name as both of us.
Yes. I am excited about it. I do love my current last name though. It's different and Italian. I'll be going to a German last name. :( hah
Is it harder to change your name in the states than in Canada, everyone I have spoken to have made it seem real easy.
While I like the sound of "Mrs. LK", I have no real desire to change my name. I've built a career on this name, been published with this name, and spent the last 31+ years with it. My name has served me well, and I'm not changing it. :)
I considered changing it, but decided I'm keeping my last name. My mom kept hers and always had a different last name than me and it never bothered. I never even really thought about it. My FI is totally fine with me keeping my name, and to be honest if he insisted on me changing it or was upset with me for not changing it I would not be pleased. I just feel like it's my name and my decision.
I'm taking his last name, I even told him so well before we were engaged LOL! I hate my last name, it's ALWAYS misspelled, and I have absolutely ZERO family ties to it. I've hated it since my first day of kindergarten, so yeah :)
I'll be hyphenating his last name onto mine. SO and I talked about it and he doesn't care either way but I decided that I wanted to acknowledge our union in my name. We also decided that any future children will my last name as their middle name and his last name.
@Dutchie: SUPER-easy in Massachusetts, you just write your intended name on the marriage certificate and then file everything (send a copy for your drivers license, social security, credit cards, etc.) afterwards. You can write any last name you want, make up a new one, anything!
DH took my name.
I plan on taking his. I really like my name, but it wasn't super important, I'll always be pokey anyhow. It's more important to him that we all (any future kids) as a family have the same name. His parents divorced and both remarried, there are full, step and half siblings and it's always bugged him that there are 3 names floating around. What matters to me is him, not the name anyhow.
My sister added her husband's name, no hyphen, ie pokey jones not pokey-jones. Their kids have just his last name. Kept her professional things simple, though it was a pain with paper work at the hospital where they assumed the kids would have the same double last name.
I like how they do it in Puerto Rico - everyone keeps their name, and kids are X *dad's last name* *moms last name*
@rachiecakes: Good to know because we are both getting a new name and I was worried about how to even go about doing that.
My dear FH said he did not care one bit either way, but I cannot WAIT to take his name. I wish I could use it now!
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