Post # 1
Just curious – what are your thoughts on finding out the sex of your baby?
I’ve had so many baby showers lately…and the last two didn’t / won’t find out the sex of the baby until he/she is born.
My co-worker – who gave birth ON her due date! yay! Just had a gorgeous baby boy and my friend from high school – due around my wedding doesn’t know yet either.
I brought this up to my husband and was surprised to hear – he wants to be surprised – he does NOT want to find out the sex of the baby.
I honestly could go either way. I know it’d be nice to be able to buy gender specific stuff before he/she arrives – but at the same time, I too would love to be surprised.
plus – obviously – i know that just because you THINK you know the sex of your baby, doesn’t always happen that way… :p a friend in high school – her mother was told, up until the birth that she was having a boy – and yeah out came my this girl’s SISTER! lol
Post # 3
I definitely want to find out, atleast with the first kid. I’m too much of a planner not to know! Besides, with your first kid, everyone is always giving you stuff and throwing showers and such, and it would be such a pain if you didn’t know what to get.
Post # 4
I want to find out. I am not someone who wants everything green and yellow. I would like to plan and decorate for the baby.
Post # 5
oh man I don’t know if I want to find out or not. On one hand I think it would be totally awesome to be surprised. On the other hand I’d kind of like to prepare a bit more with decorating. Hard to decide!
Post # 6
I am not sure if I will find out or not. FI doesn’t want to when the time comes. I am just terribly impatient in general when I know something, anything, is coming, so it’s not so much that I care about the sex of the baby as I would want to know everything about the baby as soon as possible. I will be buying gear in pink, blue, yellow, green, or whatever regardless of the answer; people who get worked up about gender ideology for babies annoy me.
Post # 7
I’d want it to be a surprise. I’ve already discussed this with my FI and he agrees! I don’t need gender specific baby things anyway…I love green and yellow!
Post # 8
I am way too type A to NOT know. I just don’t think I could handle it, personally. But, I may also wait a little bit. I dunno, I’m a big fan of the unisex yellow/orange/green colors versus tons of pink and purple or ridiculous amounts of blue. I just don’t want a mountain of one color stuff, haha. And we’ll probably do the nursery in somewhat of a neutral color anyways. We’ll see. I’m a fan of lilac-pink blends. Dh wants to know (he’s surprised that people don’t want to know actually, like some of our friends!) and w’ell probably do something fun, like only I will know, I’ll dye a cake, and ‘reveal’ it to our family and friends. I can’t wait to find out what my friend has next month, though!
Post # 9
I want to be surprised, at least for the first child. For future children after that, practicality might take over…but I’m pretty sure I don’t want to find out for my first child.
Post # 10
Also, if I end up having multiple children, it probably would help the older siblings adjust to the idea of a new baby in the house if they know if they are getting a little brother or a little sister.
Post # 11
For the first baby, we really wanted to know especially since there was this teeny-tiny chance it could be a girl. For those that don’t know my story, our DD will be the first Roddy girl in over 50 years. So it was a crazy special moment when we found out. Everyone was in total shock. That was one of many reasons why we chose to find out. To each their own though, really.
We plan on having multiple children so maybe for one or more of them we may make it a surprise. I guess we will see.
Post # 12
We both 100% do NOT want to know. I love just thinking of the doctor saying, “It’s a ____”…It’ll be so exciting! We painted our guest room (will be nursery) a pale mint green earlier this year (needed to be painted) so it will work for a nursery perfectly. I don’t want all pink or blue things anyway, so I will decorate the nursery in gender-neutral colors..I love yellow and green, so it works. 🙂
I have also heard of people being told they were having a boy, then having a girl (or vice-versa) and that worries me. I wonder how rare this really is? Does anybody know? Is this less likely in this day and age or does this thing still happen?
For all of those who want to find out, I totally understand. Being able to prepare the nursery in the colors you want, buy clothes, etc. definately makes sense.
But both my hubby and I can’t wait to be surprised!!!
Post # 13
@Jenn – I have worried about that but I don’t think it is as common but again I can be wrong. I think it really all depends on the US equipment. We found out getting our level II US and it was very clear that there was nothing “floating” in between our baby’s legs but looking at my sister’s regular US, I can’t understand how a doctor can actually see anything clearly, lol.
Post # 14
I had a little trouble in the beginning adjusting to this pregnancy. It really helped me to know the sex to help with bonding.
There’s a part of me that wishes we could have done this as a surprise, but I know for us in this particular circumstance, seeing the report that said XX really helped us visualize little Lemon.
Oh and I should say, we are not into the whole “pink for girls” thing. We’ve got lots of green, yellow, brown and black.
Post # 15
@Amaryllis– lol, Baby Bangs? Where did you find that link– hilarious!!
Post # 16
I’m not pregnant, and we’re not trying to be, but because I’ve had major baby brain, it is something we talked about. For awhile, I was for sure that I would want to find out. But then I started thinking that the surprise might actually be a lot of fun! Plus, I’d rather have a bunch of gender neutral stuff because we would like to have more than one child and I wouldn’t want to have to buy a bunch of things all over again if we ended up with the opposite gender (well, I would LOVE to buy it again, but I don’t know if we’d have the money lol). But, my husband really wants to know because it would make him feel more prepared. I told him he can know but to not tell me or anyone else :p I’m not sure how that would work without him slipping up though. But, I’m LOVING the cake dying thing that ejs just mentioned, which would still be a big surprise.
One way I justify actually finding out the gender and not being surprised is that no matter what, the day your child is born is going to be an amazing day, and the fact that you just gave birth to this little human will be a surprise and a miracle in and of itself!