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I'm a daddy's girl and my middle name is the female version of his name. But when I get married, I don't know if I want to drop my middle name. I know I have numerous options but my dilemma is keeping the middle name or dropping it. It honors my dad even though he is still around. My SO is the III so he will be carrying on his family name to me and his son who he wants to name the IV. I feel like I need to hang on to a little part of my family heritage instead of taking on ALL of his heritage.
I dropped my maiden name and kept my middle, which connects me to my mom. If we have a son, ours will be a V!
Ditto to @MissAsB: I'll drop my last name and keep my middle (which is my mom's maiden name) and take FI's as my last. I dont see any reason you need to drop your middle name...are you keeping your maident name or hyphenating?
I'm definitely not hyphenating. I really don't want 4 names so I will drop the middle or the maiden.
I dropped my middle and kept my maiden as my middle name. Using your maiden will still connect you to your father. My middle connected me to my mom as it was her middle too.. but she dropped it in favor of her maiden when she got married so I did the same, and will continue the middle name with my first daughter.
im keeping all four officially but for work or signatures, i will be firstname mylastname hislastname
NO HYPHEN. kinda like hillary rodham clinton. lol
I'm taking his last name...but it wasn't a question if i'd drop my middle...actually I didn't know it was a question...I guess maybe in situations where you'd replace your middle name with your current last name and take his last name?? Anyway...mine stays put.
Totally plan to keep my middle name. i like it too much - and there's family history there, too! It was my great-grandmother's name!
I'm keeping my middle name and dropping my maiden name.
Honestly before I found WB, I had NEVER heard of people dropping their middle name. I dont know if it's just not done in Canada or what.
I dropped my middle name and my maiden last name became my "middle" name and of course I took my husband's last name. It's like my mom said "You won't ever loose your true birth given middle name, you just won't use it for legal things."
No, absolutely not. As important as my FH is, my middle name is more important (I was named for a very close friend of my fathers who passed away ridiculously young from leukemia in the 70s), and while it doenst hold a huge amount of importance for me, I know it was a big deal to my dad, as it is the ONLY name out of his 3 kids that he wanted. Out of respect for my father, I would never change it. In fact, for a long time a short form of my middle name was a nick name that I sort of unofficially went by.
I'm dropping my middle name. I'm just going to be FirstName HisLastName.
My middle name is the same as probably a few million other people out there, and isn't passed down other than that my mom has it for a middle name too. I guess I've just never been attached to it, I never use it. My credit cards don't even have the initial.
Im with amanda.lynn... I am going to keep my middle name and completely loose my maiden name.
I'll just add his on. I've never like my first and middle names however its MY name and I'd like to keep it intact. And theres no way I'm dropping my last name completely. Goodl uck in deciding what to do
I guess I'm going to be different in that I'm not dropping anything. I will be Firstname MiddleName MaidenName HisLastName. My maiden name will become a second middle name for me, which having 2 middle names is common in my culture anyways.
But when I sign for things, I will just do 2 initials for my middle names.
My middle name is my grandmother's name and I can't drop it. That's never been an option for me, so I totally get where you are coming from.
Something 2-3 of my friends have done is kept their maiden name as a second middle name - so yeah, you have four names, but you'll probably never write them out - think about how commonly you offer up your middle name vs. your middle initial on forms, etc. etc.
I would say that is a good option if you want to keep your last name, but it sounds like your middle is more meaningful to you, so just change the last name.
I am going to add my last to my middle and use his last name
Names in my family are tradition so I could never drop my middle name (even though hardly anyone can say it 'Montiene') My last name on the other hand is at the top of the common list in every country everywhere, so it goes bye bye. This might make someone laugh though, my mother's madin name is Santiago and she marred a Smith then divorced him and married another Smith (no relation) a few years later. I always thought the two Smith's were funny enough but come to find out, 'Santiago' is Smith in spanish. So she's been 'Smith' her whole life :)
Ah, the name game! I kept my middle name, added my maiden name as a second middle name and have his last name as my last name now. I really struggled with the idea of changing my name at all...so this helped. It also helped that my husband had no middle name so he took my maiden name as his middle name. The plan is to also give my maiden name to our children as a middle name. There are no boys on my side of the family to carry on the last name so this is my little way of doing that.
I am not hyphenating, but definitely not dropping a bit of my name and absolutely taking his... guess I'll have 4 names!
Sweetpea middlename maidenlast HISlast :) excited!!
I had two middle names - my godparents' names. However, my maiden name happened to also be my husband's (and his father's) middle name. So I dropped my middle names and moved my maiden to my middle and took his last. Now we have the same middle and last names.... and our first initials are the same too. We're dorks! =D I totally here you on honoring your father... I kept my maiden instead of my middles because my father is deceased and it's his name that I'll carry on. We're both planning on honoring our mothers' by naming our kids their maiden names (as their first names).
im dropping my maiden name - it makes me sad but firstname mylastname hislastname sounds ridiculous..so i will keep my middle name and take his last name
I also have never heard of adding your maiden name as your middle name. Is this a regional thing?
Keep my middle name. It's inspired bascially every nickname I have, so there's no way I would. I wasn't aware that some brides dropped theirs!
I'm keeping all three of my names and adding his on the end as my new last name. So I will have two middle names.
@ILikePink: Yup, I think mostly Southern.
I'm not changing my name (no hyphens or anything - just keeping it as is), but am always curious to see these kinds of discussions.
I'm Filipino so my family practices the Portugese way of naming their children - my middle name is my mother's maiden name and I want to keep it to honour my maternal lineage. I'll be hyphenating and adding another name into my already long name lol.
Nope, I kept my middle and just dropped maiden name. I was named after my grandmother (first and middle) so I didn't want to lose my middle name, even though I've never loved it.
I dropped my middle name and now my maiden name is my middle name.
My first and org. middle name end in "a" and so does my new last name so they didn't sound right together.
I kept my middle name and decided to hyphenate my maiden name and his last name.
If my middle name didn't mean so much to me, I probably would have just made my maiden name my middle name, but my middle name is my deceased aunt's name and it means too much to me to drop.
@Moose1209: That is EXACTLY what I decided to do. I've never been thrilled with my middle name. It's completely generic, but my last name is confusing to some people, it's slightly different than a more "popular" version so I'm always getting that, and my fiance's is kind of confusing too. I'm not dealing with two last names like that.
He's gone all 50s husband with I should completely drop my last name, keep my middle name and use his as my last name. It's annoying because I'm not having two last names, hyphenating, or refusing to take his! I just want my last name as the middle! He was thinking that I'm going to have to go to Harrisburg and petition for the name change. It's not that much work! Ugh to men sometimes!! 
I will be adding my maiden name to my middle name, so I have two middle names and honor my own family, and then take my SO's last name :-)
My "middle" name is Roxanne...
So I certainly can't drop that! My first name is Marie and I was always Roxanne... I will be changing my last name to my husband-to-be, I always knew that would happen.
Four names here! No way I'm dropping any of my names, I'm just adding on the new hubby's...FirstName MiddleName MaidenLast HisLast. Works for ME :)
I'm in the process of becoming Myfirst Mylast Hislast, and I will go by the full thing professionally (a la Hilary Rodham Clinton). I dropped my middle name and made my last name my middle.
It's pretty obnoxious, considering the sheer length of my last name, but I love how it sounds :) It's difficulty is pretty reflective of my personality, I think :)
isnt your SO's surname enough?
Keep your middle name for sure-
Im from Australia and I have never heard of anyone changing their middle name to their husbands middle name ....
Sounds weird having a dudes name as your middle name..
@spaganya: Did this work out for you or was it a pain to have 4 initials? I'm thinking about doing the same thing...
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