Post # 1
I really don’t want to invite my boss and my coworkers. Is this considered rude?
I’ve been avoiding talking about my wedding, but it’s official and the entire office knows. I have a guest list that is “out of control”- about 70 guests over our limit. Should I politely explain to folks not to expect an invitation or keep pretending. I need your advice.
Post # 3
I’m not inviting them. I don’t think people in the office expect an invite…weddings are for family and friends, and coworkers don’t always make it into the ‘friend’ category, especially if you only see them at work.
Post # 4
nope! not inviting anyone from work. figure it is just easier that way. there have been people in the office who have had weddings and only invited a few people, but been VERY vocal about the fact that some people were and others weren’t and i think that left a bad taste in people’s mouths (at least, it did in mine lol)
Post # 5
I invited my department (small department, there are only 6 of us) and 1 other girl from work, who even though she’s not in our department (she’s in my department’s “parent department”) she sits right by us so she’s kind of like an honorary member of our smaller sub-department.
Definately don’t lead people on that they’ll get invited. If anyone asks, just tell them you’re having family-only or something.
Post # 6
I’m not planning on inviting anybody from work. In all honesty, I don’t really like 95% of the people I work with.
Post # 7
I don’t think it’s “rude”. I’m not inviting people from my work that I don’t talk to or see OUTSIDE of work. Everyone in my office is asking me about my wedding but I know I’m not inviting them and I’m not pretending that I am going to. I don’t think people should expect you to invite them just because you work together.
Post # 8
I invited my immediate team – so my manager and 2 coworkers and their wives. I’ve only been at my job for a year though and got engaged before I started at this company so I think that gave me an easier “out”
Post # 9
How many people are at your office? Mine only has 5 people total, so I’m inviting all of them. But with bigger offices, you can often get away with just inviting your friends from the office.
Post # 10
We’re not inviting any coworkers. I talk about the wedding a little bit at work, mostly just if someone asks about it. But everyone knows we’re planning a very intimate, budget wedding so they understand.
Post # 11
@Cc7492: My dept. is pretty small approx. 5 people, but I also have a pt job where it’s a team of 5 also… I’ve removed family members from my list and cannot justify inviting coworkers.
Post # 12
I’m inviting my boss and co-workers but only because we are all so close. My boss and I actually discuss my wedding details at least once a week.
Post # 13
@iheartnerds: Ditto – I’ve already explained to everyone that it’s going to be small and intimate – close friends and family. I can’t afford to feed all those people, nor do I want to be “on” all evening instead of relaxed
Post # 14
I am…but there are only three total. Otherwise it would be a no-go. My FI is not inviting his boss or co-workers since he just started a new job.
Post # 15
as a freelancer i work with a zillion people lol so while i’m closer with some than i am with others its still a ton of people i jsut don’t have room for. so i just said no work friends unless they’re invited as a guest by an invited guest. i’m also not having kids because i have a limit and i’m not going over 250 so if anyone asks i guess i’d tell them that but i don’t think anyone will ask. We’re intending on having an after party at a central location where anyone and their mother can come to. (like a hotel bar or something) so my work peeps can come to that if they absolutely need to celebrate with me 🙂
FI on the other hand is inviting his two bosses because he works in a really really small office and it’s probably the most appropriate thing to do for him and his career (our careers couldn’t be any more different seriously lol)
Post # 16
No coworkers for me. I have a small department, but still, I don’t have some friends invited as we had to cut the list and as well I have never in the year I’ve been here done anything outside of work with these people.