will you let guests take photos using a flash during your ceremony?

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: would you prefer your guests not take photos for the sake of higher quality professional shots?
    all ready have... all guests phones, ipads, flash cameras, videos and cameras are banned! : (10 votes)
    17 %
    will allow them to take shots after the ceremony but without a flash : (15 votes)
    26 %
    nah.. my wedding, my guests they can go for it! the proffesional will have to work around them : (24 votes)
    41 %
    will allow them to take photos but instruct them that the pro has the right of way for photos : (9 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I guess most weddings I’ve been to, including my own, guests were pretty well restrained as far as either staying in their seats or coming early enough to get a closer spot towards the front/on the end of an aisle, so getting in the photographer’s way was not an issue. I can understand a couple’s concern, and their photographers though!

    Post # 4
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    1355 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

    Flash photography is not allowed in our venue, but we will let people take pictures whenever they want to.

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I have never been to a wedding were I have either noticed guests taking photos (though they all did me included) or when they have gotten in the way of the photographer.

    They can take as many photos as they like. 

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper

    I trust my guests to behave responsibly with their cameras. They are responsible people, by and large. I’m certainly not going to micromanage what they can do (and they would be offended and most likely ignore me if I tried, as I would in their place).

    I think a lot of it is fearmongering from pro photogs, especially now that they have real competition from the amateur bracket… the equipment available to amateurs is getting very good, and some pros really don’t have much talent to add. Suddenly, when people see Uncle Joe’s (free) shots and can compare, that insanely high fee for a wedding photographer is called into question… Well, nobody likes to reduce their price because of unwelcome free competition… wouldn’t you know it, but suddenly people have lost all sense of rationality and are attacking the bride and groom in full chaos like they’re top celebrities… or at least that’s what the pro photogs tell it like… somehow it never seems to happen at any wedding I’ve ever been to. I must just be attending especially sane weddings?

    Post # 7
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    2630 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Our officiant will be giving a little speech requesting that guests stay in the moment, in their seats, and refrain from taking pictures during the ceremony. 

    Post # 8
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    11734 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I do not feel like I need to micromanage my guests by telling them what they can and cannot do with their cameras.  We had 135 people standing in a circle around us, and not a single shot was ruined by guests taking photos.  I understand where these articles are coming from, but I think they are extremes and not the norm.  Pro photographers know how to work around people, and most guests are not so rude as to stand out in the aisle in front of the photographer.  At least, none of my guests were that rude. 

    Post # 9
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    1466 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    For the most part I agree with these bees, not too worried about it. I did hear one bee say she got no shots of herself walking down the aisle because her friend’s bright pink phone was in the way. But I hope that my guests will be considerate and I trust them. I will ask the officiant to announce no flash photography and include it in the program as well but I won’t have it militantly enforced.

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    We’re going to request that guests put away their cameras during the ceremony.  All our friends and family are super chill, so I don’t think they’ll care.  (and if they do, oh well.) 

    My FI is actually the one who feels strongly about this, and since he’s pretty easy-going about wedding planning in general, I’m trying to accomodate the wishes he does have.  (The other one: be barefoot.  Sigh.  Whatever.)

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @wifey2be:  I’ve never attended a wedding where guests were really obviously blocking the aisle. ai would just let guests do whatever they want.

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    For me its partially the getting-in-the-way-of-the-pro thing, but also… why can’t we just put the technology up for like an hour and be with the human beings around us? Whether you’re texting or playing Temple Run or trying to turn your flash off, your attention is elsewhere, not on the conversation or ceremony. Put em up.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2006

    If you haven’t been to a wedding in the last couple of years they have changed dramatically. More than ever guests all have some device in their hands every step of the way during the day.  My last two weddings were filled with iPhones, iPads, point and shoots, and DSLRs. More than once we had to request on multiple occassions for people to move out of our way, or put their camera pop up flashes down.  Guests are completely oblivious by and large, and they absolutely do not care or seem to realize that they are impacting photography that their friends have paid thousands of dollars for.  It’s really kind of sad.  I see less emotion and more phones, and it has little to do with the sort of crowd or how nice the wedding is.  Unplugged ceremonies help, but at best that’s only 30 minutes out of your day.  I’m honestly unsure what the solution is anymore.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @wifey2be:  My photographer asked us to make a cutesy little nicely-worded sign that says something along the lines of “please keep your phones and cameras under your seat until the reception.” She says nothing is more disappointing than getting a shot of 150 cell phones instead of faces as the bride walks down the aisle. I support her in this 100%! It’s not like people will print and frame the pictures they take. They will just sit on their computer forever, or MAYBE put them on facebook, so they can just wait until my photographer posts hers 🙂

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @wifey2be:  I have put a note in our program asking guests to refrain from using flash photography or leaving their seats to take photos during the ceremony. I am also asking that no one upload any photos to social media until after the ceremony is over. 

    Post # 16
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We have already put the word out that there are no cameras of any sort allowed. Also, no pics of the Bride & Groom on any social networking until we post them. We are paying too much for our photographer and we would much rather have everyone focus on the day and evening, not selfies and instagram. 

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