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He doesn't get to see anything or know anything about my wedding look - dress, hair, shoes, jewelry - nothing. It's mostly because the thing I'm looking forward to the most at the wedding is him seeing me for the first time. Also, I just don't want to hear it if he doesn't like something. I mean, I don't think he will because he digs my style, but it would piss me off if he did. On the day of the wedding, he will think I look perfect anyway.
Yes, I agree with you: On the day of the wedding all our FH's will think we look perfecty... so maybe the way you do it is the best way?
I was wondering about this.....what am I going to do for the rest of the day after I get my hair trial done??? Avoid him, wash it out immediately???
@ Shaema: Oh yeah - that's really a problem! Maybe let thetrial be done, before you go to a party and don't tell him it's your style for the wedding and he'll think it's just for the party?
my FI saw my hair when he picked me up from my hair trial, lol. actually he will see all parts of my wedding-day look, dress, makeup, etc... just not everything all at once. Plus I don't think he'll remember what my hair looked like 6 months beforehand anyway.
He will probably end up seeing it. My trial is on Saturday and when I get home he will be there. I dont want to take my hair and mu off right away because I want to see how long it will last.
I won't be telling him. I want my entire look to be a surprise.
Uh, no. Not to tease on some of you too harshly, but I am marrying a dude. He has spent maybe five minutes total in his whole life thinking about my hair, most of it when I ask him how my new style looks and his eyes go blank like a deer in headlights as he tries to remember what the old style was. 
I hadn't even thought about it being a surprise or not. I just couldn't imagine what he would say other than, "whatever you like." Do some of you have men who are actually opinionated about how you wear your hair? It isn't like anyone plans on going two days without washing and putting it up in a neon pink scrunchy on their wedding day!
I am keeping the dress, hairstyle, jewelry, EVERYTHING a secret!! If he does find out minor details like my hair or jewelry I won't mind because like other ladies said earlier, he won't remember those details anyways! lol
I picked a few i liked that had the "feel" i wanted to go for. He saw the ones I liked b/c i was so indecisive i wanted to know what he thought looked good on me. I'm pretty sure his eyes glazed over. Anyways, my sister in law put a bunch of the looks together and it was fabulous! We just tweaked it a little for the day of (a little looser in back, a little more tease). He's just very much "that's girl stuff" about it.
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It's funny, but that was one of the most important things to him. HE sent me the ideas for my hair.
@Snowflake, OMG! Show us!
I played that game with DH with "show me dresses you like for me" and i ended up ROFL at the not-me dresses he chose
No. I don't tell him how to do his hair or how to dress as it isn't any of my business and he doesn't tell me how to do mine. It has nothing whatsoever to do iwth being superstitious because neither of us believe in that stuff.
We had a date night they day I had my hair and makeup trial, so yes, he saw it, but you know what, he's a guy - he didn't remember anything particular about it, except that it "looked nice" so he was still happy and surprised on the wedding day =)
I probably won't show him how my hair is going to be, not because I want it to be a surprise but I just don't feel the need to. His only request is that I don't have an updo which I wasn't planning on getting anyway.
I really don't think my fiance would care if I showed him my hairstyle before. I'm sure he'll think I look lovely on the day but he couldn't care less about talking about that stuff :P
I would show him but he doesn't want to know. He also insisted on seeing the dress until I bought one and then said he didn't want to see anything!
I don't plan to show him the actual style. I have naturally curly hair and he would LOVE to see me all natural. However, we live in San Diego and in the evenings the Marine layer comes in during the time we plan to marry. This is not good for all-natural styles at least not with my hair. So I have told him that I may do a half up do or a full up do but one that I know he will like.
These are my two final pics and I'm torn. I'll try to upload.
I'm sure whatever you choose on that day, he will love. We will be so consumed with how stunning you look he won't care about the hair do. Trust me unless you did braids and you knew he was completly against it, you couldn't possibly go wrong. Trust your instints and choose one that you think he will like.
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Yup. I didn't show him the dress but I did ask him about the two hair styles I was considering. Just pictures. I think I might have mentioned what type of jewelry I was looking for.
He was still suprised on our wedding day.
I think that the way guys work, they don't really process the individual details into on cohesive look. So even if he sees the hair and makeup, he won't be able to really visualize it together later.
When should I go for my hair trial?? My wedding is in August, but my hair is too short right now so I wanted to let it grow out a little bit. Im really afraid its going to be too short by the time our wedding comes (my hair stylist really messed up my hair!!!!) The next time we will be down in the area where we are getting married is in April. Do you think I should have the hair trial then even though it will be another 4 months until I actually get it done for my day?? I dont know if we are going to go down another time in between APril and August.....help!
@ clarebee: Hm, 4 months is a long time, because your hair will grow a lot in 4 months... But if it's the only way to meet your hairstylist before your wedding I would definetly do it!
My hair grows very slowly! :-( I am going to try taking some prenatal vitamins as my friend (who is in pharmacy school) said they will help with hair and nail growth and she took them herself and she said it helped!
I selected other because the reason i didn't show/tell my husband my hair style was that I don't really think he cared.
He thought I looked beautiful on the day of, but I doubt he would have thought otherwise if I'd worn my hair different. he wanted me to be happy with it!
He told me he would like my hair in an updo, because they look more elegant. However, he loves it when I wear my hair curled and down.
Yeah, I don't think mine will even care. I may run it by him to see if he has a preference, but it will probably be half up. When I do a trial, I'll wear it all day like that to see how it holds up, so he will most likely see it anyway.
I'm really not too worried if he sees all of it. He has opinions on these things, sure, but when it comes down to it I know he could care less. I'm sure he'll think I look nice no matter what. I am actually planning to do all my preparation at home and I expect him to be there getting ready too (a lot faster than me I bet - lucky thing). That's how I will be most happy and comfortable ultimately.
he's seen just about everything except the dress. I probably won't show him my hair pics of the trial, just because it's sort of the total package ... he wants to be surprised, and some of the details he doesn't care about.
He cares about the sum, not the parts.
Thanks so much for all your comments! I really think you're right - guys won't recognize the details, and he WILL love my look in the end...
hadn't really thought about it but agree, he's a guy he wouldn't notice or remember so I think I'm ok...lol
Not showing him any of the final dress, hair, or makeup because he usually doesn't think he'll like something on me, and then he does when I put it on :)
He is my #1 critic! Choosing a gown without him was hard enough so the accesories and the hair I want his opinion on! He has no idea what my dress will look like but its nice to have his input for the other things!
@ Miss Sequoia - My Fiance does the same thing! I will show him something and he wont like it and then I buy it and put it on and he loves it! go figure...lol!
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Ok, I think a lot of you will agree with me, not to show their dress (or pics of the dress) to your FI before the wedding. We want the sparkle in his eyes, when he sees us first walking down the aisle - totally overwhelmed how beautiful we look.
So we don't tell him, what our dress looks like. But what about the rest? Will you show your FI pictures of the hairsyle you picked?
Here's my story: I know my FI likes my hair rather down or half-up, but my hair is straight (as hell) and after an hour all curls would be gone... next problem: I have a picture in my head, of me dancing all night - in hot July - and my down or half-up hair sticking to my neck. GROSS!
So I decided I really need an updo! 4 days ago I went to a hairstylist to get to know the salon and I totally fell in love with an updo (in a hairstyle-book). In my mind I already had that image of me with my dress and that updo - so I was REALLY excited! I went home and decided to show the pic of the updo to my FI!
His reaction: "That looks like a piece of cr*p."
Ok, so I'm going to change my hairstyle-plan, because I don't think I like it any more. But I'm a busy bee and I already found another updo and actually I like it even more (maybe because he likes it too...)
Did (will you )you tell and show pictures?
I'd love to see your hairstyles! Did you stick to the same hairstyle the whole time?
Here's the updo, he didn't like:
Here's my new idea (I love the make-up, too):