Post # 1
I’m curious whether this is actually something brides are doing, or whether it’s just something the stores are HOPING we will for their own marketing/sales reasons (likely)… I keep seeing things that offer to “Share” or “Tweet” my wedding website or registry page.
I feel like this could come off socially tacky, but I can also imagine depending on your social circle and profession maybe it makes sense. I am a non-famous professional performer, and have toured in various parts of the world so I know if I linked it to my FB official page (not my personal) several fans that would probably like that opportunity to participate in my wedding by sending a gift or message, but for all of my normal everyday life acquaintances, I feel like this would seem over the top.
Do you have any experience with tweeting or sharing your website or registry? Do you think there’s any case in which a bride should consider this?
Post # 3
I could maybe see someone doing it with their wedding website, but definitely not the registry. I’m not a fan of either to be honest.
My ex actually shared our website on facebook, and I was not happy about it. He had a tendency to overshare things in general (photos, tagging, etc).
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@waitingwonderland: I shared our wedding website as a way to share our engagement pictures on Facebook. I know people say but then there’s people that aren’t invited having your wedding shoved in their faces…. but come on not all 500 of my friends that I havne’t talked to since high school expect to be invited to my wedding.
However, I don’t think the registry should be shared. For one, it’s linked on my wedding website so you don’t need to double-do-it. And I have a friend who was having a baby shower a few months ago…. she shared her registry EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.
Can we say gift grabby? That’s not just trying to be helpful.
Post # 5
I shared the wedding website, and I may have done the same with our registry info on a closed group in FB. It was just for the bridal party.
Post # 6
I haven’t posted anything about my wedding, other than when I bought my wedding dress and posted a status about how happy I was to find my dress. Most of my FB friends are people that I knew in school or worked with ages ago. I prefer to keep things private so I’ll probably put the wedding website and registry information along with the inviation.
Post # 7
I’ve considered sharing my wedding website on Facebook. I’m just worried that people who aren’t invited will respond to my RSVP option and show up at my wedding :/ so I still haven’t decided yet.
Post # 8
Not gonna lie, I’d side-eye a FB friend who posts their registry info publicly. It would feel like a prod for gifts.
Post # 9
I would and probably will post my wedding website, but no no no registry info!
Post # 10
Agree with PP–I wouldn’t see anything wrong with posting a link to a wedding website, but would find it really tacky to post a registry. I just looked at a college sorority sister’s wedding website after she posted it in on Facebook, and that was fun, so I would have no problem doing the same. But a registry? I don’t know why you would do that…anyone who needed to know your registry has plenty of other places to find out the info, and I don’t need gifts from my college sorority sisters either.
Post # 11
Opportunity to participate in your wedding??
Sharing the happy news is one thing. Sharing the website or registry is too much.
Post # 12
I have literally just bought gifts off my friends Amazon gift registry. She sent it on FB messenger. To be honest, I found it so quick and simple. I spent more than average because I didn’t have to stress.
Post # 13
@shaka: yes, I know how “opportunity” sounds in the everyday sense – but I don’t know how else to word the way that “fans” are about sending gifts, it’s an unusal type of relationship with people you don’t actually know but who nevertheless spend alot of their extra time and money supporting your work, and “you”. This is in specific referance to my line of work and of course doesn’t apply to everyone but it’s the best example I can personally give for potential “exceptions” to my instinct not to share.
I’m grateful for my supporters, and it is sometimes a blurry line about which things to share. In today’s entertainment world the personal life and art are very intertwined and I think it’s a line every performer has to draw for themselves. Some benefit greatly by sharing more of themselves, some only retain their sanity by being as private as possible. As I said, I’m not famous so this isn’t a big deal, there are many entertainers out there with “fans” even if just a few hundred, this is just an example.
Post # 14
@waitingwonderland: I totally appreciate how fans can be invested in the lives of those whose work they greatly cherish, and it’s beyond wonderful that you have supporters that may wish to extend a personal congratulations or a gift!
My opinion, though, is that it would be much more polite to let those individuals approach you with their well wishes or ask you about your registry. The presumption that someone will want to give you a gift is what rubs some people the wrong way, even if your intention is only to make it easier for someone who genuinely does.
Post # 15
I wouldn’t … I also don’t and won’t post anything related to my wedding.