Post # 1
I originally told everyone that if I were to have a shower, that I’d want it to be a surprise.
My mom hasn’t been the greatest at keeping things completely quiet, so I know that it will be coming up sometime soon, most likely end of March/early April. I am starting to get really nervous, thinking that anytime I have to go somewhere, that it could be for the shower. I’m most worried about my appearance! I bought a dress and really great shoes to wear for it, and now I’m realizing that I won’t be able to as long as it’s a surprise! I want to look cute in the pictures lol
Fiance suggested I give him my outfit and he will transport it to the necessary location so it is there waiting for me, so that when I get there on the day of the shower, I can change. Is this silly? Has anyone done that?
Also, how did everyone deal with being the center of attention and having to open all of the gifts? I don’t like being the main focus (I know…I will be at the wedding too) so I was wondering how other bees who have the same issue handled it.
Post # 3
Our shower isnt a suprise as I have to fly to get there. I would suggest giving your mom the dress an shoes in a convinient bag for her to bring and once youve said your first hellos you can go to the washroom and get changed. I like that parts of my shower atleast are being kept secret but I know 50 people are being invited and its at a event space I know quite well.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
Mine’s not a surprise because like @naturalysam: I have to travel to get there. Sometimes the brides will know the date but not any other details… Would you be okay with that? I know a few years ago I had a surprise birthday party… I wish I had at least known the date because I wasn’t prepared at all and looked like a scrub! 😉
Post # 5
My bridesmaids want mine to be a complete surprise but I am kind of leaning towards at least knowing the date. I also agree that I want to know ahead of time so I can be ready and look nice for it.
One of my friends had a complete surprise shower and she did have her outfit there and went and changed. It did seem to work for her but if you are getting anxious I might talk to your girls because you dont need any extra stress.
Post # 6
@VermontBride13: Thank you. When I bring it up to Fiance about maybe finding out when it is, he seems to not like the idea and says to just to go with the flow! As it gets closer, I might ask to at least know the date just to calm my nerves. If not, at least I know that I can leave the clothes with someone as an option!
Post # 7
Mine was not a surprise. There were a few surprises when I got there, though!
Post # 8
I definitely think this is a regional thing. I’m from the South and had never heard of or seen a surprise shower. Then I moved to NJ, and that’s all I’ve seen. My FI’s family is from NY, and every woman has had a surprise shower, as have all of the friends I’ve met here. I don’t really like the idea of it. I’d like to look nice and I also have a special dress to wear to my shower. My friend was on her way to get her eyebrows waxed in no bra and no makeup when she was surprised with hers – needless to say, she wasn’t too happy with how she looked. Plus, where I’m from, the bride usually gives the hostess a little thank you gift, which is impossible if it’s a surprise. I’m pretty sure I’ll be having a surprise one since that’s how they do things up here. My sister is throwing me a traditional, non-surprise shower back home.
Post # 9
Mine was sort of a surprise. The original work shower date didn’t happen because of my father’s funeral…I was told that presents would just be given to me as part of the end-of-school-year luncheon, very low-key. When I arrived, it was a full-blown shower!
Post # 10
@peaches13: That’s exciting! That’s one reason why I WANT it to be a surprise, to look back on those fond memories of being surprised and people doing something special for you!
(my condolences on your fathers passing by the way)
@hardtoconcentrate: “My friend was on her way to get her eyebrows waxed in no bra and no makeup when she was surprised with hers – needless to say, she wasn’t too happy with how she looked”
Exactly why I DON’T want a suprise…lol. I’m relying on Fiance to make sure I don’t look like a hot mess when he takes me (I assume he’ll be the one driving me to the location)
Post # 11
I told everyone I knew that I did NOT want a surprise shower. Like PPs, I had to travel to get there, but I also am not a spontaneous person, and I don’t handle surprises or large crowds well. Guess what it was? A surprise.
It was a very awkward experience for me. I didn’t really know how to react. I tried so hard to smile and make the best of the day, but all I wanted to do was burst into tears.
I know that I’m lucky to have so many people who wanted to do something nice for me, but it felt very strange that the people who are supposed to know me best in the world would do something that was the complete opposite of what I told them I wanted. Almost a year later, I still get angry when I think about it.