Post # 1
I am not a parent myself yet but this is one part of becoming a parent that I think about a lot, mainly because I can imagine unless we can do both then it could cause us to be at loggerheads!
My fiancé is C of E so would most likely want to have any children christened (certainly that’s what his gran thinks!)
Im baptist so would prefer the children to be dedicated.
So what did you do/will you do?
Post # 3
I am Seventh-day Adventist and we dedicate the babies, they are baptized of their own choice later on down the line. However, my DH is Catholic but not practicing. I’m imagining that in order to respect his parents and their beliefs we will probably look into the Catholic church option as well. A little extra “blessing” isn’t going to hurt to keep everyone happy.
Post # 4
@Treejewel19: I am happy to do both! I just don’t agree with christening by itself!
Post # 5
@Treejewel19: lol @ a little extra “blessing.” That’s a cute way to look at it 🙂
Post # 6
My husband and I agree not to do anything like this and to let the child decide what they believe later on when they are old enough to understand for themselves. I’m glad were on the same page about it.
Post # 7
Neither of us are religious so we don’t plan to chirsten our kids. We are getting married in a secular ceremony. Since we don’t attend a church or practice religion it would just seem weird for us to start up just for a ceremony.
Post # 8
Our kids (especially the first one) will have HUGE baptisms!
In my family, baptisms are a HUGE deal. EVERYONE goes–people will travel hundreds of miles to be at one!
DH didn’t really like the idea of EVERYONE being there, but I talked him around.
I didn’t have a graduation party (and got in trouble) then I had a small wedding (and got in more trouble), so the baptisms will be the only major life celebration my extended family gets to participate in!
Post # 9
Im catholic and even though husband isnt, i had already told him it wasnt a question that our kids will be catholic and baptized early as an infant. He agrees with doing it early because, to be honest, It was a pain to go threw everything when we wanted to get married. His family is not practicing baptist and they wait till they are old enough to decide. If he had just been baptized there were a lot of hoops we wouldnt have to jump threw. And It would also be easier to convert to anything else. I def. have it for more reasons than that. but that was a small perspective.
Post # 10
When my daughter was born, almost 23 years ago, we had her baptized (Catholic) at 4 months old. I wasn’t going to do it, but my mom really wanted it, so I was like, “good excuse for a party!” LOL, if it was now, I wouldn’t because I’m not religous at all. I still have her very beautiful christening gown and cap.
Post # 11
The 3 older kids were Baptisted at 3 years and 5 years old. When DH and I have kids they will be Baptisted as infants.
Post # 12
I was Christened but did not go through any sort of religious education or conformations after. My brother was too. I am lightly relgious,mostly spiritual, my brother is completely non religious. My hubby was baptized and put through catholic sunday school stuff. Even he is only lightly religious.
Neither of us want out kids totally brainwashed into religion. But we do like the idea f having the baby blessed and naming God-parents. To us it’s like most parts of religion that we like, the traditions and the well intended blessings. We have no intention or raising them to be unquestioning, brian washed religious freaks. We’ll approach it with the same level headedness we believe.
Post # 13
@FromA2B2013: We aren’t religious so we won’t do any kind of religious ceremony for our children. We are in complete agreement about it as we are both agnostic (more leaning towards athiesm).
Post # 14
DH is Christian (non-denominational) and wants to have DD dedicated but, as I am agnostic, I don’t feel entirely comfortable with it so I think we’ve agreed to do nothing. She may choose to be baptized when she is older.
Post # 15
We aren’t having any sort of ritual…FI and I were raised Catholic, both of us were baptised, made communion, then I was confirmed (not by choice), he wasn’t. We are having a secular ceremony at our venue, and do not plan on raising our children with any sort of religion. We plan on celebrating the traditions of the holidays our families celebrate, but on a much lighter, non Jesus mentioning way…My family isn’t happy about this, but it’s how we feel-plus, we have a little ways before we have to worry about this, since we’re not getting married til next Sept then wont be TTC for a year after that. 🙂
Post # 16
@FromA2B2013: I don’t have children but my parents enrolled/dedicated us to a church and allowed us to make our own decisions as we became old. They allowed us to explore our own beliefs and answered our questions the best they could. They wanted to allow us to form our own opinions about religion and that for the time being made sure we’d go to church/sunday school to at least learn about religion. I don’t believe that there is a right or wrong answer to whether or not you choose to have your child baptized. I do believe that every person should have the right to choose as they are older about whether or not they want to be religious/attend church regularly. If I were to have a child, I wouldn’t have my child go through a baptism. I would all my child to make their own decision just like my parents did. Everyone feels differently and religion is a touchy subject with people.