Post # 1
Like the title says, did you or will you practice your first dance beforehand, or have you decided just to wing it?
Fiance hates to dance, and we have honestly slow danced together MAYBE three times in the 4.5 years we’ve been together. For this reason, I am soo worried about our first dance. I had really wanted to squeeze in some dance lessons but we’ve definitely run out of time and money now.
I feel so awkward dancing around our apartment to practice but think that if we don’t, standing up there like we’re at a grade 8 dance is going to be even more awkward!! The real problem lies in that neither of us really know “how” to dance, so I’m not sure practicing will do much good…
As a result, I am really starting to dread our first dance 🙁
So bees, what have or are you doing?
Post # 3
There are some places that you can do a short 2 hour dancing lesson to make both of you feel more confident in your dancing which will maybe make him want to dance more? OR Tell him your concerns and maybe he will be willing to suck up some practice with you. Turn on some music, have a glass of wine and loosen up before you start to practice.
We are definitely going to practice – Fiance hates to dance and frankly, he slow dances fairly awkwardly. Hahaha.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
We will, just because our song is faster than normal. My Maid/Matron of Honor is a dancer, so she’s planning to help us along a bit. 🙂
Post # 5
Wow, I didn’t think this was happening to anyone other than me!
When my Fiance were first dating we went to a wedding where he wouldn’t dance much. Then he just stopped after I made the mistake of joking about it with him (apparently he took this more seriously than I intended). Years later (which was last weekend) we went to a friend’s wedding. He again refused to dance due to confidence issues. That is when I really started to freak. I couldn’t help but think that I want to dance a lot at our wedding and how could I dance with everyone but the groom?! After talking about it him and I are going to take dance lessons. We will go through a private studio to get a dance down for the first dance (I believe many studios offer short sessions/private classes for this type of thing just like @ scournoyer418 said.) Also, we are going to take regular dancing classes to increase his confidence. I couldn’t say anything to make him feel confident. It’s something he has to find from within and dancing classes are a way for us to foster this. He’s all for dance classes! I hope you and your Fiance find a way to deal with this. I would talk with him and suggest both of you guys going to dance classes. Good luck!