(Closed) Will your husband buy you a gift when you have children? Tradition Q

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I had only heard about this kind of thing a few years ago – but I thought it was some kind of marketing thign, haha.  Like a way to sell more jewelry.  I didn’t know there actually was a real tradition behind it.  If my mom or any of my aunts ever got a gift for having a child, I’ve never seen or heard of it – and I highly doubt my FI will be doing anything like that.  It’s okay – we’re not big gift givers anyway.  ๐Ÿ™‚ 

It sounds like a very sweet t hign to do though!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yes, in NYC it’s called a “push present.” (probably in other places too)

I’ve known women to get diamond earrings and such and a woman in my office last year got a pair of CLs.

My dad got my mom pearl earrings I think for me, and I’m not sure what for my sister.

 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i’ve never heard of a push present. i don’t know, i feel like a baby would be present enough for me.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I too love the idea of passing something onto my children from their daddy… it’s so sweet!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

Hells to the yes, I expect a push present after carrying a baby around for 9 months, gaining a rediculous amount of weight and then actually HAVING the thing…I would love a necklace with the initial of our baby, plus maybe our initials too, something I can keep adding to as we have more kids…Althought, diamond studs would be nice too…hmmmmm, something to think about ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’ve heard of the “push” presents. My friend got a gorgeous diamond pendant during her first pregnancy. Don’t know if we’ll be doing something similar. I do love the idea of passing it on to the kids at some point though.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I hadn’t heard of this until recently (when friends started having babies)  I have mixed emotions about it.  It’s kinda like giving wedding gifts – shouldn’t the wedding, marriage, rings be enough and same goes for having a baby, shouldn’t having this new addition be enough of a gift without some extra token and bling?  I’m sure in some circles it’s become custom so how could a woman not receive a push present, when all their friends do.  I think if the gifts weren’t normally expensive jewelry I’d feel differently – I’m giving my hubby to be a gift on the wedding day, but its not expensive and I certainly wouldn’t expect him to present me with more jewelry on our wedding day, I’m just excited to get my wedding band!

From Marriage to Motherhood just did a post about this topic recently.  She made some good points, but not in favor of push presents.  I think it definitley swayed me to the anti group!  http://jessicaralph.blogspot.com/2009/08/push-present-really.html

I guess I wouldn’t decline a gift from my hubby when we have kids, but I wouldn’t expect anything and pick something out either – again mixed emotions!

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I got one!  My xh got me a tag watch w/diamonds around the bezel and a tennis bracelet. *(last one for c section emergency and 9 days in the hospital).

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

So how do you tell the man that you expect a push present?

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@<span style=”font-size: x-small; color: #81a026;”>ejs4y8:  you’re so right, again I have mixed emotions about it!  With my group it has certainly been really nice gifts – diamond earrings, diamond band rings, lots of diamonds!  It seems as though the ladies think it’s another chance to get some bling once the wedding (e-ring and band) has passed.  I agree a sweet token like a locket with pictures or intitals would be a fabulous gift that doesn’t have to cost a lot. 

Just a story from my experiences…a former co-worker did not get a push present with her first child.  For her second, she started hinting (I guess the trend became super popular between baby 1 & 2)!  Her hubby gave her diamond earrings for baby 2 and very sweetly said he chose earrings because it was one for each child.  This lady wasn’t too pleased and told him and our office about it!  She wanted 2 seperate gifts – I guess she thought he needed to get one for Baby 2 and make up for not getting one for Baby 1!

And also, I can certainly understand pointing out things you like for the hubby who doesn’t love shopping!  My guy appreciates pointers as well ๐Ÿ™‚

I think my issue with the push present is that some women expect it, get upset when they dont get it and also feel entitled that it be something super expensive like at least thousands of dollars worth of jewelry.  Again, some women, not all!  ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’ve heard of push presents but nobody I know has ever recieved one. I don’t expect anything but if he wants to use having a baby as an excuse to buy me jewelry-I’m all for it!

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