Post # 1
I am thinking about this…
My first thought is that no, I do not want him to see me “that way”. I want him to still see me as a woman, not just a mother; and I am kind of worried that I would lose all my sex appeal to him if he is there.
BUT, the other day someone asked if he would be there and without hesitation he said he would.
I do not want to deny him this experience if he wishes to be there, since it is his child too.
So if he want to be there, he will, but near my head only; and if he changes his mind, I think I’d be ok with that…
BTW, not pregnant, just overly planning things (we already have names and know which school they will attend…)
Post # 3
He better as heck be at my side! If he want’s to look that’s up to him… but otherwise, I’m glad we’re going to one day give birth to a child when fathers are allowed to be present!
Post # 4
Yeah, I’m game for him being there. He’ll be up near my head though during the pushing unless I don’t care and I probably won’t by that point.
Post # 5
I think it is great that he wants to be there! I would absolutely want my FI to be there when we have children. I think the miracle of birth is exciting and scary and overwhelming and so many other things…but I don’t think that even if he does see the birth in action so to speak (read: watching the baby come out), that he will lose his sex appeal for you. Birth is a wonderful (and painful, I imagine!) event and I would want nothing more than to share that experience with my man!
Edit: By share the experience, I mean preferably by my head as well. So he is there for support, but perhaps not the full view…unless I am past the point of caring or else too preoccupied to notice that he has peeked. Hopefully we can keep it PG for all expect the doctors!
Post # 6
I just asked DH that and he shook his head vehemently…over and over….side to side…..
I think it’s a no =]
He can stay at the head. I’d like medical professionals down there, only. Shoot, we have separate bathrooms, so yeah.
Post # 7
I’m with beekiss2. I definitely want him to be right next to me and the only one right next to me (all family will need to be in the waiting room). The thought of anyone I see in my daily life (including my husband) actually seeing the detailed process go down is totally not appealing to me, but who knows if at the actual moment it is happening if I’ll care. I’m doubting if I’ll care about anything besides getting the baby out lol
Post # 8
I agree with ejs and egb, by the head only, no touching or looking ‘down there’.
Post # 9
PS. I’m pretty sure that DH would have zero interest in looking anywhere down there during that time, so I’m not really worried about it.
Post # 10
He will definitely be there to hold my hand and stuff, but he doesn’t need to see that end of it. 🙂
I’m actually in the process of filling out the forms to pre-register at the hospital, and one of them is the “birth plan” or whatever. So one question is, “Do you want a mirror?” (i.e. so YOU can see it?) I think I’m going to write “HELL NO!” beside it.
Post # 11
Husband will absolutely see the delivery! I’m not ashamed for him to see me like that at all.
Post # 12
Only Elvis had those kind of weird connection in his brain that once a woman gives birth she is only a mother and not a sexual partner Most men can’t wait the typical six weeks after their wife gives birth before wanting to jump their bones.
Don’t over think this. You will make yourself crazy!
By the way, they have mirrors in the delivery room so you can watch too!
After you have a baby, all sense of decorum is gone. When the time comes, you will not care who is in the room or who is watching closely.
Post # 13
Oh man, if anyone suggested to me that he NOT be in the room, I’d be furious. I’m really counting on him for that moral support. But I’m with the “by the head” girls.
Post # 14
I definitely want hubs to be in the room with me when I give birth, but we are both in agreement that he will be at my head only.
Post # 15
I never once questioned whether I wanted DH to witness our daughter’s birth. We both agreed from day one that he’d be there and watch whatever he felt comfortable watching. In the end, he witnessed the entire birth and cut the cord. He cried and got really emotional and never once has he ever expressed any dissatisfaction with our sexual relationship as a result of having seen my nether regions in a whole new light.
Heck, I SWORE I had an “accident” on the table and messed myself while I was pushing but everyone in the room says no, I didn’t. There was no “clean up” so I know they’re not fibbing to me. Childbirth isn’t glamorous but it’s still the most beautiful thing in the world, IMO. I wouldn’t want my husband to miss out on that.
And, here’s the kicker…he’s usually squeamish but HE ran over to the table that had the bowl with the placenta in it and photgraphed it. Yeah, a bit extreme…but to this day, everyone is interested in that darn photo. Oye!
Post # 16
Of course he is going to be there. I agree with the previous poster about whatever my husband sees will not be a deterant to him seeing me as his sexy wife. My FI has seen me with the worst flu I ever had and then proposed to me. He loves me no matter what. I also would like my family and friends to be there if they wanted. I am an RN so I have no qualms about people seeing me deliver. No pregnancy yet, but hopefully soon