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This is what our officiant wrote:
Peter and Kelly, I have asked you as a couple, to find a strong wooden box that will hold one bottle of wine, and two wine glasses. In addition, I have asked each of you to write a letter to one another, expressing your thoughts about the good qualities that you have found in your future partner, as well as, your reasons for falling in love with each other. I requested that under no condition were you to read each other’s letter, and that you were to seal them in individual envelopes and put them in the box with the wine and glasses.
should you ever find your marriage enduring serious difficulties, I am asking that before you make any irrational decisions, that you both, as a couple, open the box, drink some wine together, and then venture off into separates rooms to read the letters that you wrote to one another when you were united as a couple. By reading these love letters, you will reflect upon the reasons that you fell in love with each other in the first place. The hope here is, that there will never be a reason for you to open this box, unless of course, it is for your 10th year anniversary!"
Peter and Kelly<span style="font-size: 9pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif">, I now ask that each of you take a nail, one at a time, and hammer the box shut."
Peter and Kelly if there is anything I want you to remember of this marriage ceremony, it is that it was love that brought you here today, it is the only love which can make it a glorious union, and it is by love which your marriage shall endure.
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I think doctorgirl is also using this as part of her ceremony. She might have a script to share, too...
We're meeting with our officiant on June 13th, so I'll have a better idea of what we are going to say then. He's hilarious, so it will probably end up being a bit of a comedy sketch if I know him.
The one twist on it that we're doing differently, is that we're not waiting to open the box until we have a fight. Rather, the direction will instruct us to open the box on each anniversary, drink the wine, and replace it with a new bottle and to add new letter. This will become a time capsule of our marriage, and hopefully something our children will have to remember us and our relationship.
Needless to say, we won't be able to use the standard wording... I'll keep you posted!
Does anyone know a good place to buy one? I don't want to spend a ton of money, but want a nice box.
We're making ours... but we did find some good boxes on etsy. (What can't you find there, really?)
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we are doing a wine and chocolate ceremony, I've never heard of a wine and box ceremony! This is a really cool idea! Good luck!
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doctorgirl, i love that!!
we got our box at cost plus world market for $10; however, it doesn't allow for glassware. to me, a bottle of wine and letters were sufficient, though.
We are doing this same thing, and I just bought our box from etsy.com. I searched "wedding time capsule" and there is a vendor that sells boxes that are designed to hold a bottle of wine and two glasses, and carve your names and wedding date on the front of the box. There are also pre-drilled holes so if you chose to hammer in nails during the ceremony, it will go a lot smoother. ;-) Including shipping, it cost $45.
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I love this idea so much, and love that it acnowledges that difficulties may come up. I am SO going to use this in my ceremony. Thanks!
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Wow, I LOVE the idea of opening the box and adding to it on the anniversary much better than the original idea (I think it invites negativity into the ceremony...).
I'm sorry, I was supposed to get back to you on wording Leloo... but changed names so didn't have your pm on hand. I have to go look up the wording:)
We did not say anything about fights, since we plan to open ours on anniversaries and celebrate the sharing of the moments of our lives together.
We actually didn't have time to do our wine box ceremony during the ceremony... but we did plan for it, and we did do it... just not as a part of our primary ceremony.
Officiant says: "I'd like to draw your attention to the box in front of DG and Mr. DG. They have written letters to each other expressing their feelings as they begin their marriage. We will include these letters in the box along with a bottle of wine and two glasses. Together we will seal this box, and on the happy occasion of their anniversary, they will open the box, read the letters, drink the wine, and add new letters to the box. As time passes, they will have a record of the yearly reflection on their relationship and a living document of the growth and depth of their ever evolving relationship.
DG will you commit yourself to this undertaking?"
Me: "yes"
Officiant: "Mr. DG will you commit yourself to this undertaking?"
Him: "yes"
Officiant: "please seal the box together."
Thank you for sharing. My FI's brother is the officiant and I am frantically trying to put our ceremony together.
I LOVE, LOVE the idea of opening it at each anniversary, rather than during a huge fight. Thanks for the info on the etsy seller. I'm going to see if my dad can make a box for us, but if not, I'll probably buy from etsy. It's such a great idea, and since we are having a very simple ceremony, without a unity candle or anything, I think it's a beautiful addition to our ceremony.
This idea is awesome and I plan to use it in my wedding. I found another place that also sells them. They will even perform the wedding if you live near by! http://www.woodenboxceremony.com/
We are doing this ceremony and bought our personalized box from http://www.beau-coup.com/engraved-wine-box.htm
It does not hold two glasses but we didn't need those. We are "sealing" the box with ribbon.
im in looooove witht his idea we are so doing this plus we will nail one nail in and were going to pick two ppl each to put a nail in as well
heres the link i found
This is really cute - and it's perfect for my vineyard wedding. Thank you for the great idea!!
This is perfect! We're going to do this too and definitely keep adding to it at every anniversary! Wonderful! :)
Has anyone tried to swap the wine box for a wine tote or wine bag? I want to avoid nails, hammers etc for fear of denting the bottle and logistics of it all. Would love to know if anyone has used a tote or a wine bag and if so, how did you "seal it"?
Thanks!
We are planning on doing this too, but I LOVE the idea of opening every year instead of just the once. Thats great, thanks!
I love this idea. I am thinking we might do the ceremony at our rehersal rather than our wedding though because I am with @sarahh.sf@gmail.com: and dont want hammers and nails at our service.
This is a really neat idea! I've never heard of anything like it, but am totally going to do this!! :)
I'd rather do this than the candle ceremony. I personally hate the candle ceremony, but it's part of the traditional catholic ceremony. The candle either never lights, or lights and constantly goes out. annoying.
I'm in love with this idea. Even more, with adding a letter every year.
It never occurred to me to do this at the rehearsal, but I really like that suggestion too. We're aiming for a ceremony that's short and sweet. This might be the way to do just that.
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we're adding it to our ceremony, however i am having difficulty putting it into dialogue for my officiant. has anyone else done this? can you tell me exactly what the text was?