Post # 1
im kinda stuck on this issue. The reception is at a church. Therefore, no alcohol allowed. However, i would like to have some wine to toast with, for me and my fiance. Would it be okay to ask the preacher to allow one small bottle of wine, or would that be considered disrespectful or rude?
Its a non denominational church, and the preacher is one of those Sunday-and-Wednesday-only preachers, he has a day job and only does church stuff on Sundays and Wednesdays. So far he is pretty relaxed on what we can do, but he was pretty firm on the no alcohol, so im not even sure how he would react to this question. Should i ask, or just leave it and drink punch?
(we dont like champagne and even Jesus himself drank wine)
Post # 3
I would not ask for two reasons:
1. if he’s pretty strict about the no alcohol rule, I doubt he’ll make an exception even for the bride and groom. Most churches have a pretty firm ‘no alcohol’ policy for weddings.
2. if you serve something to some guests, you should serve it to all guests, even if it’s just the bride and the groom having something. I know this isn’t the same thing, but I went to a wedding where the bride and groom were served steak while the rest of us went through a buffet line and ate cold, pressed chicken. It doesn’t make you look like a very good host if you get better things than your guests do.
Post # 4
@cmbr: +1 to both reasons.
OP- if the preacher was very firm on the alcohol aspect and relaxed on everything else then I wouldn’t ask. I doubt he can make any exceptions.
Also, as the hosts, if you are served wine you should serve everyone wine.
Post # 5
thanks. it wouldnt really be served to us, we would just have it already in our flutes when we arrived so nobody besides us would know it was wine. it would be a slightly darker color than the punch. However i dont feel comfortable lying to a man of God like that, id like to have his approval first. thanks for the answers
Post # 6
Just so you know, alcohol might be prohibited for insurance reasons, not for theological or spiritual reasons. At my church most people aren’t opposed to social drinking, but serving alcohol on church property is prohibited because our liability insurance wouldn’t cover any mishaps that would occur at a function where alcohol is being served.