Post # 1
So I’m looking for anyone who has used the wine box ceremony instead of the unity candle or sand ceremony. We’re getting married onthe beach and were advised that those two were not possible with the breeze. I saw a picture of the ceremony and it looked cute. Basically, from what I understand, the couple puts a bottle of wine in a box along with love letters, nail it shut or close it, and then, during their first big fight or their first anniversary, they open it. Thoughts? Details? Help! P&T!
Post # 3
There’s a really beautiful post about it here:
Recap: Wine Box Ceremony with a Twist (with pics)
ETA: I LOVED the idea, but Fiance didn’t like the part about publicly declaring that we’d drink together if we ever had a fight so bad that we questioned our marriage. It may be something we do in private.
Post # 5
I don’t think the point of the letters is because you questioned your marriage. Everyone fights even if they aren’t questioning their marriage. Love letters help you keep perspective I think.
Post # 6
Oh, I totally agree. He just felt like it had a negative connotation, and he has SUPER traditional parents, so I’m respecting his wish not to do it publicly. We both really like the idea of preserving our thoughts and feelings around that day for later use, be it during a time of stress or a time of happiness.
Post # 7
@blushingbride0612: We did the wine box/love letter in our ceremony. It fit us best since we did a lot of wine tasting while we were dating. The officiant explained the purpose of the wine box while we sealed it-when the officiant mentioned the letters we had written, my hubby held up the letters so everyone could see, which made everyone laugh. We actually included 2 bottles of wine and are planning on opening the box and reading the letters on our 5th wedding anniversary. It was the single best idea that I ‘stole’ off of weddingbee. 🙂
I think the letters are supposed to include what attracted you to the other person and what you admire about them, so that if you do hit a rough patch you are reminded about what you fell in love with in the first place…..at least that’s the spirt that I used to write my letter.
Post # 8
We are doing it, but we are going to open it on our 10th anniversary, not our 1st. You can pick whichever anniversary you want, though! We’re getting married at a winery and we love wine, so we figured it was fitting.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
We’re doing this too! If you want the exact wording we will use during our ceremony please feel free to send me a private message and I will share it with you! 😀
Post # 10
We are doing this.. I’m thinking we’ll open it on our 5th anniversary, but not sure yet.
@StarryNight2011: Love your winebox!! Where did you get it?
Post # 11
Our names and the date of the wedding are engraved on the front….and we did the love notes but our Chaplain had a GREAT idea…also, put our written vows in AND bring it back during the reception and let people put “well wishes” in it, or advice..whatever they want to. We are opening it up at 5 years and can’t wait to see what people wrote!! p.s. those pens are one of the favors, we didn’t just put 200 pens out there…LOL!!!
Post # 12
We are doing it but like someone else said, my fiance wanted to do it in private. I was actually surprised he thought it was a good idea when I suggested it! We’re also putting two bottles of wine in there but I’m kind of toying with the idea of putting a bottle of wine and a bottle of smirnoff because that’s what we drank when we went on our first couple of dates.
Post # 13
We are doing this too!! I fell in love with this idea the moment I read about it! We will open ours on our 10th wedding anniversary. Still unsure about the wording for the officiant. I’m curious about what others will say!
Post # 14
It might be nice to put the motecards for guests in the invites, just so tht people have a chance to think of a nice sentiment. I would appreciate the chance to think ahead of time what A wanted to say rather than be put on the spot.
Post # 15
@MsFoxxy: I bought the box unfinished, stained it, then lined the inside with felt and fabric. My hubby bought and trimmed a small piece of wood to add to one side so the box could be sealed. So it was a joint project. This is where I bought the box from:
Post # 16
We’re actually doing it as our toast 🙂