Post # 1
A friend of ours showed us this wine box/first fight box idea for the ceremony. We weren’t planning on doing a sand or candle unity, but we thought this was a cute idea. I believe the couple is suppose to write love letters and put a bottle of wine in the box and seal it shut and open it during their first married fight or during a hard time. We were thinking of modifying it slightly by just putting in our vows after we read them and since we don’t drink wine we will think of some other drink.
What I need help with is a reading he officiant could say so everyone knows what’s going on. I tried to google one but couldn’t find anything. Is there a reading? Is it done in silence? Do couples just make up their own reading for it?
Have any of you bees done this?
Post # 2
Brace2014: This is what we had my officiant say:
“Geoff and Allie have chosen to perform a special ceremony involving one of their shared interests – wine.
This box contains a bottle of wine, and a love letter from each to the other. The letters describe the good qualities they find in one another, the reasons they fell in love, and their reasons for choosing to marry. The letters are sealed in individual envelopes and they have not seen what the other has written. They have created their very own romantic time capsule to be opened on their 5th wedding anniversary, where they will then repeat the process.
Allie and Geoff, I recommend that you keep the box in a place of honor prominently displayed in your home as a constant reminder of your commitment to each other.”
If you don’t drink wine then you can definitely use something else, just make sure that it will age well. Also I really recommend writing a real letter in addition to your vows. I feel like it’s something special to have something that you haven’t public declared. My DH and I wrote ours on the morning of our wedding and I think it’s going to be super cool to see/relive what we were feeling on the day of!
Post # 3
We had the wine box/love letter as part of our ceremony. This is what I came up with based on other bits I had found on the internet and weddingbee.
At this time, M and K would like you to witness an untraditional tradition. The fact that it is untraditional is probably why it appeals to them so much. Here’s how it works: M and K have written love letters to each other. In these letters they have detailed why they fell in love and what they truly admire about the other person. These letters were sealed before they could be read by each other. They will place the letters, along with a good bottle of wine inside of this box. They will then nail the box closed. The idea is that if ever they find their marriage has hit a rough spot, they will bring out the box, they will open it, share the wine, and read the letters reminding them of the love that brought them together and the promises they made to each other here today. It is their hope and belief that they will not need the box except in celebration of their 5th anniversary–but if they do need it, it’s there. This may not seem like the most romantic thing to do on a wedding day–to think about the days when things will be hard–but it’s important to M and K that their ceremony and promises to each other be realistic. They know that marriage is a lot of work. They mean every word that they have said here today, and they do not take lightly the words “as long as we both shall live.”
Gratuitous wine box picture below:
Post # 4
A close friend of mine did this at his wedding as well. His mother planned it for him and in addition to putting in their love letters to one another, they asked each of their parents to write out a special memory of the couple in their relationship, along with a list of the best marriage advice they could offer. It added a special aspect to the box and they said during their first fight (which was a doozy) reading those letters and that list of advice may well have saved their marriage. I hope this works out for you! It’s a great idea.
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Post # 6
We are doing something similiar – but no wine, just a love letter ceremony. Our script reads :
April and Scott have written letters to each other expressing their feelings as they begin their marriage. They have detailed why they fell in love and what they truly admire about the other person. These letters were sealed before they could be read.
Together they will seal the box, and on the happy occasion of their first anniversary, they will open the box, and read their letters. By reading these love letters, they will be given an opportunity to reflect upon the reasons that they fell in love with each other, and remember the sights, sounds and smells of their most precious day.
Post # 7
jenilynevette: that’s beautiful! I do like the 1 year anniversary better then the first fight haha