Post # 1
My Fiance and I have a few people in our families that enjoy their alcohol a bit too much so we are very concerned about putting wine on the tables. We will have the bar open for a cocktail hour then closed during the meal and re-open for the remainder of the reception. What we had hoped was that they vennue would allow us to just offer glasses to the people who would like a glass rather than have unconsumed wine on tables, which these guests may consume for them. However, after a lengthy discussion with the venue that doesn’t look like an option.
Our wedding is in October and I’m hopeing you ladies might have some ideas about alternatives to wine on the tables.
Post # 3
You may want to consider limiting the number of bottles placed on the table during dinner instead of doing away with the wine entirely or putting a nonalcoholic substitute in its place. The habitual over-indulgers are going to over-indulge no matter how you try to control it, so by cutting off wine on the tables all together, you don’t really get any benefit— they’ll just go booze it up at the open bar after dinner. Maybe request that the venue serve a maximum of 3 bottles per table during dinner, and only one open bottle at a time (3 bottles based on an 8-person table is about 2 glasses per person).
I would seat these folks at a table without children– not to protect the kids or anything like that, only that having 3 or 4 kids skews the number of glasses per person and increases what each adult gets to have.
Ask the venue to use smaller wine glasses if possible. Although they’re not as elegant (based solely on my style and preferences), it’s much harder to dump a half a bottle of wine into a 5-ounce glass than a 12-ounce glass.
Most importantly you should identify the potential over-indulgers to the bartenders so that during open bar hours they will take care not to over-serve those folks. This is going to be a LOT more effective than getting the wine off of the tables.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Why do you have to have wine on the table during dinner? I like to drink when I am out but I don’t find it odd that the bar is closed during dinner. I have never heard of a venue requiring wine on the table. Don’t serve any alcohol during dinner.
The drinkers are going to drink unless you have no bar at all and even then the serious ones will bring flasks and bottles in their car. So long as they don’t get violent I don’t see the issue. Speak to the venue and bartender about how they handle unruly/drunk guests and have a game plan on how to send Uncle Jimmy back to his hotel or house if he gets a little too loud. Other than that you aren’t going to be able to keep people from overindulging at your wedding.
Post # 5
As a drinker, it would be better if you just left wine off the table all together. (I find it odd that there is wine on the table). Most likely the heavy drinkers will still have their beverage from cocktail hour anyway. I tend to grab one at the very last minute to take with me into the reception.