Post # 1
I’ve been thinking about whether or not to toss my bouquet and FI to toss his garter. I know from past posts I dont need to do it but its usually done around here. (I am 50/50 right now).
Anyways, if we decide to do the toss, i think i want to have a little fun with it.
I want the person who catches the garter and the person who catches the bouquet share a dance but with some ‘props’ i.e. over-size shoes or fun sunglasses.
I probably won’t do this if, for example, if it includes a child and some 40 yr that is a “stranger” to that child.
I remember one wedding i went as a kid they gave the guy scuba fins..as a kid, i thought it was entertaining.
Would this be fun? embarrasing? awkward? Should i go for it, or spare the winners some embarrasment and dont do it.
thanks for your input as always…
Post # 3
@thelittleone: Im all for the toss.. But save the embarrassment/awkward moment for the winners and your guests. It sounds funny in theory, but in reality, it might not work out as planned.
Post # 4
In my crowd, the garter and bouquet toss are awkward enough. Most of us are in our upper 20s or early 30s. it takes begging from the DJ and or bride to get people up there to start. Adding the level of I have to preform with a prop and a guy I may not know, and I am hiding in the bathroom until it is over.
Post # 5
thanks for your input. I thought so and just wanted to bounce it off to the bee.
Now I am seeing in a different light. I would not want 200 people staring and laughing at me during this time lol.
Post # 6
I’d leave the winners be, but that’s just my opinion
Post # 7
Awkward and embarrassing. Just have your photographer take a picture of them or something.
Post # 8
@thelittleone: Our DJ offered this: instead of throwing the garter, the men in the room would be rated for attractiveness by the cheering volume of the women in the room, then the top three would have a basketball hoop with a ball and string attached strapped to their waist (I am not kidding, I swear to God) and they would then thrust to make baskets. The one making the most baskets gets to keep the garter.
Umm no. Just so very much no-ness. While this would probably be hilarious with a frat boy crowd (or AT a frat party) my guy friends would literally never forgive me for putting them through that. And for the older guests, oh the humanity. Our DJ is hilarious and awesome though, I bet he’d have found a way to make this classy. Damned if I know how.
You know your crowd best, some groups like that kind of thing, some weddings are a younger crowd, if your guest list is on the wilder side and would dig it why not? But I’d definitely decide based on who catches them, because it would just figure that the shyest guests there would catch both and you’d inadvertently traumatize them.
Post # 9
The toss is bad enough. Don’t make it worse by making the “winner” of the garter catch put the garter on the “winner” of the bouquet catch, and don’t make it complely horrid by making them do prop-dance. Believe me, the people who catch these items do not feel like they’ve won.
Post # 10
the poll has spoken…i decided its not a good idea. I guess I am stressing over too much about entertaining my guests (i.e. games) and having a “fun reception”I just stick with the good ol’ shoe game. always enjoyed that one!
@jennmariee: i’d be worried my guest would feel not attractive enough… I am shy myself so I should understand about awkwardness, you would think. True enough since our crown is prob half young and half older.
@Horseradish: I just wrote ‘winner’ as who ever catches the bouquet or garter. I wasnt trying to imply anything negative, just the word i chose. I wasnt sure how to word the title (to keep simple) thats why i quoted the word itself:)