Wish I did the "invisible ink" pen on my invites…

posted 3 years ago in August 2013
Post # 3
30284 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@jsanford:  Aww 🙁  Sorry to hear! Did you figure it out?

Post # 4
3806 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

YES YES YES!!! OMG I’m not the only one! I had the same line of thinking. “My guests are intelligent enough to read the RSVP card and follow the directions.”

(I’m paraphrasing but this is kind of what my RSVP card says)




Please initial beside your entree




I received a card back with NO NAME, an X beside “accept” and a circle around chicken. What the entire f*&k. 

And like you, we had to narrow it down to see who would do such a thing. It was postmarked on May 31 and mom received it on June 1. So we know it was local. We called as many local single-invite people as possible and they all said they didn’t do it. So that left 2 people… my very very formal and etiquette happy grandmother (so I knew it wasn’t her) and a cousin who LIED and said she didn’t receive her invitation. I sent her another one the day that my mom received this RSVP which tells me she didn’t read it, rushed, and tossed it in the mail. 


Post # 5
11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t really understand the big deal about making the numbers invisible. I just wrote a small number on the back of each card in pen. Haven’t needed to use that yet, but better safe than sorry. Lots of people haven’t filled the cards out right, BUT it doesn’t really make a huge difference because every single one of them just didn’t fill out the first blank in “____ of __x_ attending.”

Post # 6
4366 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I just did pencil numbers on the back of the RSVP card. Which would not have helped if I got an empty envelope.

Post # 7
1472 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Yep, I just numbered (very small and in pen) the back of my RSVP cards. One of DH’s great aunts was terribly upset because she hadn’t received her invitation, but the day after we found out…we got their RSVP back (his great aunts are getting older, so they must have just forgotten). 

I had 200-ish invitations, but didn’t want anyone to feel like they were the end of the list, so I only numbered 1-50 and put the numbers in various locations. Probably unnecessary. I did have to figure out who 2 of the RSVPs were from–so I’m glad I did it!

Post # 8
60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@jsanford:  I put numbers on the envelopes and the RSVP’s.  I had two people not put their name on it at all (Thank goodness for numbers) and one person mark no and then write a nice note saying how happy they are to attend the wedding and are really excited about it.  People make mistakes and read through things too quickly sometimes.  LoL

Post # 9
298 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Imeant to number mine too but I totally forgot. I got a RSVP back that had “your favorite aunt!!” written in the ‘will attend’ line. My dad has 12 brothers and sisters!!! Funny, but I’m glad she wrote her husband’s name on the next line.

Post # 10
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

This is why I’m using the RSVP feature on the wedding website!

Post # 11
104 posts
Blushing bee

??? just because someone smokes pot does not mean that they are automatically stupid enough to mail back their rsvp without writing anything on it. are you serious?!


Post # 12
1931 posts
Buzzing bee

@lettuce:  Yeah, I don’t really get the connection… seems like the OP just doesn’t like her because she smokes.

Post # 13
8677 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I wrote tiny numbers on the back of the card & envelope. Then I assigned each person a number.

ETA: LOL at the judgement at the pot smoker. Maybe she doesn’t want to come because you dislike her for smoking pot. Just sayin.

Post # 14
313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@lettuce:  I think the insinuation here was just that the girl was being forgetful. Not that she was stupid. 

Post # 15
943 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Haha I know, you would think that people could figure out the simple concept of RSVPing. We had traditional AND online RSVPing, and you wouldn’t believe how many people somehow missed the online RSVP information… can you not read?

Haha we had one groomsman that had a last name that started with an M. He used the M___ line to write his last name. For example, let’s say his family name was “Martin”: Martin… and then wrote the number attending without specifying who in the family would actually be there.

Post # 16
2851 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

What do you mean by… “Future sister-in-law, who has been known to smoke pot, mailed it back empty”

What does that have to do with anything??… Just because someone smokes pot does not make them an idiot, that has nothing to do with it.


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