(Closed) Wish my family could get excited again about our wedding…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2623 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

That is a lot to deal with in a year and not a lot of time to come to terms with it all and really accept it all. 

You will know what you want to do and what you think its best, but from what you told me I would have the same reaction as your parents. Someone doesnt get over being suicidal in less than a year (its been a year total so the breakdown was what? 6 months ago?), in addition to being diagnosed with a disease and having a breakdown. Therapy for /anxietydepression takes time and patience.

Wedding planning is stressful and could cause the anxiety to come back full force again if your fiance doesnt have all the coping mechanisms needed yet.  

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@likelimeade:  thats a tough one, sometimes it is hard when we share a lot with other people for them to distance themselves from that knowledge even when things get better.  Dont get me wrong as what you did by sharing with them was right so they could support you but maybe they are scared for you even now.  You need to do what is right for you and your FI.  You cant make people be happy for you, I know it hurts, we dont have support from FI’s family as they dont really celebrate marriage etc so they are completely unexcited or and are not supportive in any way. They are possibly not even coming (and we get on very well with them with all other things), I understand that lack of support is a downer.

Post # 6
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

If you were my sister, I would definitely think a month is too soon. I think you need to give yourself stress-free time to recover. I agree that your marriage is a celebration of your success in various parts of your relationship, but wedding planning, especially so close to the wire, is very stressful and you may be tempting fate if you putyourselves in a stressful situation so soon after a breakdown.

That being said, if you are rested, relaxed and ready, I think you should do what feels best. I’m sure your family will still be there for you on your day, even if you do not pospone your wedding.

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