Post # 1
I’m visiting my mom this week and she made me an appointment to start dress shopping. I’m excited cause my sister who I rarely get to see will be going with us but I’m also terribly nervous.
See it takes me months to find a pair of jeans, even longer for shoes and let’s not even talk about purses. My FH reminded me last night in the time we have known each other, nearly two years, I have only bought one pair of jeans and that was a year and a half into our relationship and countless trips to the store.
Engagement ring shopping wasn’t hard but I was picky. I didn’t want it to sit too high up, I didn’t want this or that, and it really boiled down to just knowing when I saw it, thankfully he agreed and saw it was the one.
So that brings us to dress shopping. I would love my FH to come with us but I know my mother would really frown upon that. And to an extent I agree, I want him to be floored when he sees me on our wedding day. But I value his opinion so much. Last year for our anniversary he bought me a beautiful black dress that I love. His taste are much better than mine. It’s going to be so hard to pick out an extremely important dress without his opinion. It’s also going to be hard once I find a dress not to tell him all about it because I tell him everything.
So let me hear from those who have dealt with something similar. Did you decide to stay with tradition and wait til the big day for him to see your dress? Did you allow him to go shopping with you but you choose the dress without him knowing which one? DId he go and help you pick it out with him knowing it was the one? What made you choose that choice?
Post # 3
I thought about having my FI go dress shopping with me, because I was just so nervous. And like you, I wanted to be sure that he liked my dress, his opinion matters to me. In the end, I didn’t have him come in the store with me.. He drove me there and a couple of my bridesmaids came & did the shopping with me. I think I made the right choice, as I really wanted him to be surprised on our wedding day. But you have to do what is right for you.. You will have your mom there, so she will be able to help you. Maybe you could look at dresses online and just ask him what styles he likes? I did that with my FI before I went.
Post # 4
Why don’t you try it with your family first, then bring in the FI if it doesn’t work out? That way, you will have both experiences. Also, he will be floored on the wedding day even if he sees you in the dress before, don’t worry!
Post # 5
I brought my FI with me because his opinion was the only one that mattered to me. I got some snarky comments from one of the ladies helping me at one bridal shop, but the others were nice about it. My parents didn’t say anything, so I have no idea if it bothered them or not. If you check out that thread about wedding dresses in the shop vs on the wedding day, you’ll see that you still look very different on your actual day with your hair and make up all done and accessories all on… you’ll still impress your man, even if he goes shopping with you. =o)
Do whatever makes you happiest and most comfortable, because you won’t get this chance again! Good luck and have fun with it!
Post # 6
i know how you feel, my fi is my best friend, literally. i chose my dress with some help from girlfriends, but it was his opinion i wanted most. luckily tho, we thing alike. i took him to a bridal salon for fun and he showed and told me what qualities he liked in wedding dresses, and my dress fits every one to a tee.
Post # 7
I feel the exact same way! I went dress shopping only one time and I had FI with me. It was just the two of us and he walked around the store and picked out dresses he liked and vetoed dresses he didn’t like. Just as I was about to walk into the dressing room, he turned to me and said that he didn’t want to see me in the dress until the wedding day and then sat outside in the car for an hour while I tried on the dresses. I didn’t buy anything that day, but I thought it was a fair compromise – he can pick dresses he likes and then leave (and hopefully next time, I’ll have other people there, too!) while I try them on. Ultimately, you know what you look good in and he’ll love whatever you pick because you’re going to pick the dress you look most beautiful in, right??