Post # 1
Hi Bees, i have been married before and he hasn’t. i know all the planning and it is quite stressful. I want a small wedding with me in a nice dress that i didn’t get to wear at my first wedding cause i was pregnant, But he really wants a small wedding at the fort and not to elope. I just dont think he realize how much weddings are. i am having about 40 people or less. I dont want a lot of people there cause i want to have intiamite wedding my first one wasn’t. i have kids and they are in the wedding but elopement really sounds really good and honey moon with it. Just he is really insisting on having a wedding. i just want to be his wife and not have the stress of it. Any of you have any suggestions? thanks Lorabell
Post # 3
If it were me, I’d write out a budget of what you expect you will need for everything and show it to him. And also have a budget of how much it will be to elope, and compare.
Post # 4
I agree with the PP. You have been married before but he hasn’t, I don’t think its fair to ask him to not have one. A happy compromise should be thought of here. I didn’t want a huge wedding, he wanted to go all out. We are having a wedding with 160 people about half of our previous guest list and we are doing something really simple. We are spending roughly $5,000. We are both happy with it.
Post # 5
“i am having about 40 people or less.”
Is this what is in the works now and you are shooting for just a two person elopement? Is he happy with 40 people?
How about a comprimise? What about an intimate wedding with just immediate family and maybe close friends?
have them witness your wedding at a courthouse, or even in a local park.
Then take them all to dinner and reserve a private room at a local restauarnt. That seems about the easist way to have an intimate wedding if you ask me! Or pick a cool place to call it a trip and have the ceremony while on the trip then go out to eat?
Would both of you be happy with that at some level? Sounds like one person will not get exactly what you want, so figure out what the both of you could be happy with and call it a comprimise.
Post # 6
Would a destination wedding be in the cards? That way, you could have a small, intimate wedding, a small amount of people would still be able to come, and the staff at the destination/hotel would be able to take care of the details. Plus it could double as a honeymoon, if you were planning to have one.
Post # 7
@sienna76: I think you are right! It is not fair to him not to have a wedding. We plan on having it at the fort here in maine. Yes he doesn’t want alot of people there either. So i guess we wont be eloping. Thanks for opening my eyes alittle. I think we will do the basics and have a wedding at fort and reception at my house with family and friends. I am happy with that, I just want to marry my best friend!!
Post # 9
@sienna76: Ditto, as always!