With a receiving line, can we sit during dinner instead of visiting tables?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Can newlyweds just sit and eat at their reception instead of visiting tables?
    Yes, if you greet all of your guests some other way, you can sit & eat instead of visiting tables : (36 votes)
    77 %
    Yes, you could if you do a receiving line, but you'll look rude/odd if you don't visit tables : (2 votes)
    4 %
    Yes, if you greet all of your guests some other way, sit & eat, guests will come to you : (6 votes)
    13 %
    No, even if you greet all guests some other way, you still need to visit tables during dinner : (3 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 2
    42182 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Shkragoldfish:  I think every bride and groom should sit down and enjoy their dinner. If you are up doing table visits, not only do you miss your dinner, but you interupt the guests who are trying to enjoy theirs.

    The receiving line ensures that you have had an opportunity to greet and thank every guest. After dinner, do still circulate and vist with your guests, but it’s not going to be a crime if you don’t have formal contact with someone.

    Post # 3
    6985 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think it would be totally fine.

    Post # 4
    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - Norton Country Club

    Good grief, I hope so! I’m planning on eating…

    I know I’ve posted it before (so forgive me if it’s old news) but in addition to the receiving line, FH and I are putting two chairs across from us at dinner.  On the back will be “Stop by” and “Say hi!” signs to invite folks to come talk to us too… I think this is from a Swedish tradition? I’m looking forward to it because I know a few relatives who will want to come talk and it gives us time to eat something on a day where I often hear people say they forgot or didn’t have time to eat!

    Post # 5
    3769 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 1999

    I have never heard that the bride and groom are suppose to skip their meal to go to tables… Sit and eat of course, but I do think you should still try to touch base with every guest at the recepetion. The receiving line is really quick and I think the bride and groom should try to talk to everyone if possible.

    Post # 7
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I attended a few weddings with receiving lines and table visits. Totally overkill. Enjoy your dinner.

    Post # 9
    3769 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 1999

    Shkragoldfish:  I do still think either the bride or groom should talk to as many guests a possible. I am not meaning have long heart to hearts, but enjoying their company at some point in the evening should be a thought in the back of your minds. We had a wedding pretty similar to yours, a long weekend getaway. We managed to do a receiving lione (we actually went back through and ecscused the guets from their seats so they didn’t have to stand in line). Between the end of cockatail hour and the end of dessert before the dances and the reception, either my husband or I talked with just about everyone and had plenty of time for dancing and fun!

    Post # 10
    943 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We didn’t do a receiving line (as a guest I find them incredibly boring and awkward), and we just ate our dinner and then made our way from table to table. You don’t need to have full conversations at each table, just go as a couple (so neither of you gets stuck) and say hi thanks for coming, etc. Most people were still eating when we made our way around anyway so it was quick and easy. We had the same number of guests as you will, and it was only around 12 tables.

    I feel like people are going to expect you to walk around regardless of the receiving line.

    Post # 12
    1737 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

    Shkragoldfish:  Way back in the old days, when I got married the first time, we did a receiving line. By the time we finished that and took pictures, everyone was done eating anyway, so it did not matter.

    Post # 14
    6700 posts
    Bee Keeper

    You need to do one or the other at the minimum, but as host, I think it is appropriate to make an effort during the party as well. With 95 guests it is not  difficult. I’ve never been to a wedding of that size where the couple did not manage to get around to all the tables.  

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