Post # 1
How would you feel if someone verbally invited you to their wedding?
FI has a friend that we aren’t very close to but is attending a bachelor event and FI always invites to his b’day parties. He’s a customer that goes into FI’s work and we wouldn’t really socialize with him outside of that… but I asked FI if he wanted to invite him (a lot of FI’s extended family can’t make it.
I have another friend who was on the original guest list, but then we had a falling out (he deleted me out of his phone because he thought I was blowing him off). We since worked through it and all is fine now – and I’m wishing he’d be invited.
What do you think? The wedding is 2 weeks away – would a “I’m sorry for the oversight, but we’d love to have you” type of a thing be ok? I know if it was me, I wouldn’t really mind (knowing I wasn’t particularly close to the person, but still touched that they wanted to celebrate with me)…..
Not sure what to do here….
Post # 3
Hi I totally think it would be okay – especially if you have a pretty casual relationship with them. But if you had an extra inivte that might be nice 🙂
Post # 4
Since they are both boys they will probably think nothing of it : ) A free meal and free booze are much more important to them than ettiquette! As long as you phrase it properly I think they would be happy to be invited.
Post # 5
I verbally invited a few people a couple of weeks before our wedding.
It was a situation where they are friends of friends. We ran into them out one night and we were like, "WE SHOULD HAVE INVITED YOU!! Do you want to come?"
They were very happy to join us and not offended by the verbal invite at all.
Post # 6
I’d be fine with the invite. You just have to make sure you express to them that this wasn’t a “you’re on the B list” kinda thing. I’m sure they’ll be happy to attend.
Post # 7
This happened to me. My ex-boyfriend’s sister was getting married, she had the room and called to ask if I wanted to come about a month before. I was so flattered to be invited I didn’t care that she called. She did follow up with an invite though. So if you have one to spare I would send it or hand deliver. PS I’m not a bride so that’s a true non-bride brain answer!
Post # 8
I am a super weird person about these kinds of things. Let me get that out in the open before hand. So, you know, I’m totally cool with you ignoring my advice.
But yes, I would not like it as a potential wedding guest. I would feel like an after thought and I wouldn’t go. And I can tell you this for sure because I’ve had it happen to me with friend’s parties and such and that is my exact reaction.
So yeah, I am weird about invites. That’s the straight truth. And I’m fine with people diagreeing with me. But personally, that’s how I am.
Post # 9
You could always call and do the old “Just checking in because we didn’t receive your response card” trick, or say that the invitation was just returned in the mail if you really, really think the people will be offended. But, I do agree with the PP who said that guys don’t really care about etiquette, so a verbal invitation should suffice.
Post # 10
I would feel like I wasn’t really wanted. But that’s just me, my friend invited her roommates from college that were on the “B list” and they were happy to get the invite last minute and came to the wedding.
Post # 11
@tootietoo2: ha, that was my first thought too!
i agree that men probably don’t care as much about this, and wouldn’t think much of it. make sure to specify if you are inviting them with a plus one or not though.
Post # 12
Honestly? I just think that it can’t hurt to ask 🙂
Post # 13
Honestly, I would be offended. Simply because it’s kind of offensive to be told your an “oversight.” I know that’s not how you meant it, but you know how people are – they interpret things differently. I think if you’re set on really inviting them, then I would give them an actual invite not just a verbal one. Good luck!
Post # 14
I think it sounds like it would be okay! But don’t invite them if you think it’s going to cause any drama!
Post # 15
I received a last minute verbal invitation like this once! I was in a class with the bride and groom at church – we got to know each other pretty well over the course of the class and they said one night that they had some extra room at the wedding and would I like to come? I was flattered!! Definitely invite these people. Just be honest with them. If they are truly happy for you and your FI, they will be delighted to come.
Post # 16
i have been verbally invited to a wedding.. i didnt mind it but if u do have an extra invite its preferrable