- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
As our wedding gets closer, the more I realize how little I know about weddings. I’ve only ever been to one wedding so my understanding of best men and bridesmaids and all that has been pretty fuzzy. My fiance has two best men (he was the best man at their weddings) and so I have two best ladies. We’re still unsure if we want to have some kind of entrance or if we want to start it with a song (the 5 of them are musicians so the girls were going to do one song and the guys another) but anyway….
a little bit of back story is that I’ve moved across the ocean and two of my best friends I’ve known since I was 5 are my best ladies…. meanwhile since I’ve been here my fiance’s brohter’s wife has been helping us out sooo much: she volunteered to make our inviations for us, she wants to organize my hen night, she took me to try on dresses, tells us all the little wedding things we’d be forgetting about otherwise because she helps organize weddings for her work… so really, she is maid of honor material. But I didn’t know her very well before I came back here, and my fiance isn’t having any groomsmen just his two best men…. so we were thinking of asking her and her brother’s wife to be witnesses to include them in some way…. though I don’t know if it feels like enough. We were going to get her some kind of gift (mostly “thank you for letting us live with you for three months”.) So firstly I don’t know if its okay if people not standing right by the minister to be witnesses. Secondly if I wanted to just add on two bridesmades/best ladies a month before the wedding because they helped so much with the wedding planning itself…. would that seem awkward, or rude that I didn’t ask them straight away? Its just difficult because I’d hardly seen them at all before the wedding planning really started and my two best friends were such an obvious choice.
Thanks for any thoughs!