Post # 1
I’m sure this has been posted before but I was wondering how involved the woman should be in choosing the engagement ring. I’ve been with my boyfriend for over 5 years and we have talked about marriage almost every day and he “unofficially proposed” (that’s what he calls it since he wants me to have the ring to call it official). He told me that ring shopping makes him nervous and he would like for me to choose it since its a ring that I will have forever. In a sense I would like him to pick the ring so I can be surprised when he “officially proposes”. However, there’s a part of me telling me that it wouldn’t be so bad to choose the ring. Basically, what I am getting to is would it be considered selfish/self-absorbed if I do choose the ring? Or should I let him decide. Thank you in advance!! :]
Post # 3
Pick about 3-5 that you love and then he can pick from there…just make sure that you like them all equally
Post # 4
I did my very best to make sure that I communicated to my fiance which styles I did and did not like. But, bless my fiance’s heart I didn’t like the one he bought me. It was on the do not buy list… I considered keeping it to myself, but I was SOOO excited about being engaged, but hated looking at my ring.. So I exchanged it.
My opinion is no, it’s not selfish. The feeling of not liking your ring is terrible. You’ll be wearing it forever. If you don’t want to pick the exact one you could show him one or two that you’d love your ring to look like? I tried saying none of this style or that style or this shape and it just was confusing… 🙂
Post # 5
i chose my ring. i’m the pickiest person ever, and he knows that. so when we started looking, he let me choose what i liked. we started looking before he “officially” proposed. and in the end, the ring is nothing like i thought i’d want. but i can’t wait to have it on my finger (i won’t have it until at least christmas, if not january).
i already told him that i don’t wanna know when he gets it. cause i want him to surprise me with it.
Post # 6
Pick a handful of rings you LOVE, all the same & let him pick! So you know you will love it either way, but he still picked it & you will be surprised!
Post # 7
Darling Husband and I shopped for and picked out my ring together. I don’t think that makes me selfish or self absorbed at all. I’m picky and I wanted something I’d like and want to wear for however long I choose to rock my e-ring.
Post # 8
I designed the ring 🙂 I am a very picky person by nature. Not to say I wouldn’t have treasured something he had picked, but why wear something I don’t like for the rest of my life? I’m also a little control freak, I’ll admit it 😉
Post # 9
We went over and over what type of ring I wanted. He wanted to know EXACTLY what style, cute, setting etc that I wanted. We have now been together for over 10 years, we just got engaged in July. Because I had waited so patiently for so long he wanted to be sure to get me EXACTLY what I wanted, and he DID he blew it out of the water! 🙂 If he wants you to have what you want and wants you to love it then don’t feel bad telling him exactly what you like and don’t like he wants you to be happy and love looking at your ring and love showing it off to everyone! 🙂
Post # 10
i felt like i was pretty picky, so i chose my ring myself.
Post # 11
I think that it depends on the relationship, everyone is different. A lot of women choose their rings now.
My Fiance wanted to pick out my ring and design it himself, and make it a complete surprise. The only input that I got was when we looked at rings together at the store and I tried on a couple. That way, we got to know what I liked because I had never looked at engagement rings before we decided to get married.
This is how I wanted it as well because I think that it is romantic. I like that they chose every aspect of the ring himself and put all of his love into it. Now, it is really a symbol of his love for me.
Post # 12
Thank you for responding so quickly. I am also very picky and he wants to make sure he gets me exactly what I want. I like the idea of picking a few rings and letting him decide. If I tell him what I don’t like I’m sure he’ll get overwhelmed. That seems like the best idea. Thank you!!!
Post # 13
I most definitely chose my own ring. Fiance chose one first, then three weeks later i returned it because i HATED it and it was too small for my longer fingers and it looked a little wierd. I think it’s better to choose your own, you are the one that is going to be staring at it forever. Fiance didnt even care, he said i needed to love it and that he wasnt going to have to wear it. Just like he picked out his own ring, bc he has to wear that!
Post # 14
I told my Fiance what I kind of wanted and showed him some pictures. He got to pick it out on his own though, and it was an amazing surprise. If you want it to be surprise, I suggest not physically picking it out but instead steering him in the right direction so he can make an educated selection, like my Fi did 🙂
Post # 15
We already knew we were getting married…just like you. We were in the mall one day and just stopped by a store to see what was there. After looking for a few minutes and realizing that they didn’t offer anything remotely cloae to what I wanted we decided to have one made. We picked out the stone and setting together and it was still an exciting time…especially when I knew he had picked it up finally but hadn’t proposed yet. I’m way too impatient!
Post # 16
@GelaMac: This 🙂 I would say pick no more than 3 or else he might get confused