(Closed) woman inviting herself – how to handle this one?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sounds like she’s coming! What’s two more anyhow? But, seriously, she has a big impact on your future and its not worth the risk.

Post # 4
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1775 posts
Buzzing bee

I think if you can swing it, invite her. I feel it’s sort of in line with invites to employers and whatnot.

Post # 5
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2233 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I see no reason to invite her but then I think that depends on how big of a wedding you’re having. If it’s small then no, but if you are inviting a sizeable group then I would extend the invitation.

Post # 6
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686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I feel like you now have to, but I disagree with @Baimee that it’s expected or required for employers.

The only out you have is if you’re truly having an intimate, mostly family wedding.

The “if they don’t have a sporting event to attend” comment troubles me.  Even more than inviting her, it would suck if you reserve 2 spots for her against your wishes, and then last minute she skips out because of NASCAR or a Vols game or whatever.

Post # 8
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913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Ugh. I would feel SO uncomfortable in this situation! I would want to be able to relax and let loose a little at my wedding, knowing I’m among friends and family. I wouldn’t want the award woman there because I would feel I had to be super professional and buttoned-up. But if she was a source of future networking opportunities I’d feel I had to invite her. I do not envy you!

Is it possible to make up an excuse that she won’t take personally–strict fire code limit, parents paying for wedding, etc.?

Post # 9
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6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I would invite her – look at is as an investment for your future 🙂 2 people won’t hurt and you will have so many people to talk to you will barely even realize they are there.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@macshap:  While that is a big wedding I still don’t really think you have to invite her. While this organization has helped you tremendously I don’t think you owe them anything else as long as you have met their criteria for the award.

The way I see it, unless you actually ask for her address you don’t need to invite her and I would just not bring it up. If she gives you her address (rude!) then I would say that you simply cannot accommodate her/you’re at capacity/huge family whatever.

Post # 12
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111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would just not send her an invite and not explain anything. It doesn’t sound like you see her all that often so it’s not like you are going to be discussing wedding plans around her. She should not have put you in this position, she is older and should know better, she doesn’t know how you are chosing to have your wedding – for all she knows, you are having a close family only affair where she clearly doesn’t qualify. I would just not send an invite and perhaps she will forget about it since you are not close and don’t see each other much.

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