Woman Proposing to Man… Good Idea??

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Should I reverse roles and propose to my man??
    Yes! : (50 votes)
    23 %
    No! : (149 votes)
    69 %
    Yes, but in a different way : (17 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    3199 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @FutureDrAtkins:  what if he’s planning something?! since you know he has the ring and has asked permission, i’d at least wait a tick before doing anything drastic. maybe in a few months and after a couple of conversations about what is taking him so long, you could do it.

    Post # 4
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    3813 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    Sorry, I voted “yes” but must have glossed over the part where you said he has already asked your parents’ permission and bought your engagement ring!  I don’t know how you could get any more clear that he is planning to propose to you soon!!

    Post # 5
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    820 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @FutureDrAtkins:  I think it’s sweet! In general, I hate the gender prejudice that says men have to propose to women. However, be careful, you don’t want to step on his toes if he’s got a big plan coming!

    Post # 6
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    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    He did say if you proposed he would accept…however he also has the ring which makes me think he’s planning something and I would hate to ruin his surprise! Maybe do the shoot (I love the idea) but have the sign/undies say something more like “Whenever you’re ready, the answer is yes” or something to that affect so you’re not proposing persay? I dunno…

    Post # 7
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    983 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Eh..he’s bought the ring and has asked permission from your parents, so it would seem that he’s got something in the works.  What a bummer for him if he had some grand plan that he was working on and you jumped in and proposed!  I mean not that your proposal would be the downer, but that he wouldn’t get to make the big gesture and sweep you off your feet.  Not dissing any girls who have done the role reversal, but I just feel like it’s the guy’s role to take on, ya know?  But I tend to be slightly old fashioned 😉 

    If he’s wanting you to be more romantic, your pinup idea sounds great…just without the proposal stuff in there!  Or you could cook him his favorite meal wearing only an apron and high heels and tell him he’s not allowed to touch you until he’s done eating.  Or plan a sweet little day out and about doing some of his favorite things.  It would really depend on how the two of you define “romantic” but that sounds like more of what he’s asking of you…not necessarily a proposal. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    550 posts
    Busy bee

    I don’t really care who proposes to whom, but it looks like he’s already planning something, so I’d just let him go for it.

    And it’s probably just me, but “I proposed to him with the words ‘marry me?’ on my butt” doesn’t sound like a romantic or even cute proposal story. If you want to go for it, maybe something less difficult to recount would be better.

    Post # 10
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    6407 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Sounds great, but I wouldn’t propose to him with his wedding band, that’s for the wedding. I’d suggest a mangagement ring or gift of some kind (e.g. watch).

    Post # 12
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    351 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I definitely think it would emasculate him. I know it’s hard waiting. I was in the same situation you were in, but I think you should just suck it up and wait. At least you know he has the ring. That means it should probably happen soon. 

    Post # 13
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    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Hmmm…I’d do the sxy photoshoot as you imagined it, but don’t give it to him. Wait to see if he has a proposal planned, and if he does, then you can present him with the album and ring following his proposal to you. That way, you will have proposed to each other!

    But if he continues to honestly have nothing planned, then go ahead and propose to him. Give him a heads up and say, “remember when you said you’d like it if I proposed? Are you sure?” That should signal to you whether he actually has nothing planned, and the ball is in your court.

    Post # 14
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    1436 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @FutureDrAtkins:  I LLLLLLOOOOOVE your idea. It’s adorable and sexy and sweet! So I voted yes. After reading what other posters said, though, maybe he has something planned… so now I’m torn haha.

    Post # 15
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    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @FutureDrAtkins:  I wouldn’t do it, but I’m traditional in that way. Sounds like he already knows you’re ready, so I would wait until he felt ready to (you’ll know that when he asks). I think because I follow the traditional gender roles in this case, it just feels pushy to me. But different things work for different people 🙂

    Post # 16
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    1007 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Do it!!!!!!!!!! Why do we always let the men have all the fun planning a proposal?!?

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