- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I am Facebook friends with a girl I went to high school with, and it is apparent that she is very Catholic and very pro-life, etc, etc.
She has been married since age 21 and has 3 kids. I’m sure many more are in her future.
And I’m happy for her – honestly. If that is what she wants, then great!
But she always posts these memes and stuff about how a woman’s only duty in life is to produce children. And of course she’s entitled to her opinion, and I never comment on her stuff because I’m respecting her lifestyle but …. I can’t help but feel offended (and I do NOT get offended easily). And I just plain don’t. get. it.
She posted something today that said “no matter how much pro-choicers hate this, women do not need a cure for their ability to have children.” She posted it with a comment that said, “Women need to accept their duty to have children and just realize that is their obligation in life. You were put on this planet to give birth and not doing so means they are not fulfilling that goal.”
I’m 29 years old and I’ve only been married for 4 months. My husband and I do not plan on having children ANY time in the near future AT ALL. My husband will be starting school in the summer and I may want to do so also at some point. Our finances aren’t the greatest right now and I just lost my job so things will probably get even worse for a while.
I have really bad anxiety and some depression, so I need to get a handle on those things before I even CONSIDER having a child.
So of course we’re using birth control methods – because we are in NO position to bring a child into this world.
And let me tell you something – once I do have a kid, that might be the only one. I don’t plan on being another Michelle Duggar.
There is no way in HELL we could financially, emotionally, physically support more than 2 kids.
But apparently this makes me “less than a woman.” Apparently I’m not doing my duty. Apparently I am selfish.
And my sister, who never plans to get married or have children? Well, she’s apparently just a waste of female skin and a uteras. Too bad she’s busy getting her master’s degree and pursuing her dreams.
UGH!! I just cannot understand this mindset!
Can someone please explain it to me?
I’m not trying to start any controversy, really. I understand that certain religions/lifestyles have different beliefs, and that is FINE for those people. But how can you critisize others for this very personal choice??????