"women aren't women unless they're having babies"

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Stace126:  DUTY?

Sorry but fuck her.

Did any of us ASK to be born?  No.  So as far as “duties” are concerned…we don’t owe anyone, shit.

Can’t you defriend or block her psycho facebook feed?

Post # 5
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1690 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The 1500’s called……

Post # 6
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1739 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I have seen my fair share of this on Facebook as well. I’m not sure why as of late I have been seeing more of this type of posting. I generally think that the person might by lonely and vying for any attention they can get from others, whether it is controversial or not. My mother who has wanted me to have a baby for years recently said to me, “Don’t have a baby if you don’t want to; there are other fulfilling ways to spend your life than on raising children.” I almost said, “Amen mom, when did you think of that?” But… my brother and his wife just recently had a baby in August and maybe that is why she said it – maybe she realized being a Grandma is very cool but not her most important job in the world like she thought it might be. (Just a thought). It does irrtate me a bit when I see all these “I am a mother, what are you?” type of posts but then I think – if it is bothering me when I see it, how many other people are they offending?” I usually end up showing the posts to my fiancee and he rolls his eyes and laughs – the things people will post on FB but not say directly to your face.

 

Post # 7
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Honey bee

@Stace126:  It’s sad, but I know quite a few people (including women) who believe this. Heck, I have a friend who doesn’t really like the idea of being a mom (her viceral reaction to children is gagging), but is planning on having kids to make her husband happy and because it is “what women are supposed to do.” Those are her exact, rote memorized words. I have tried talking with her about it more and while she is clear that she doesn’t think she will like being a mother, it is a sacrifice she is willing to make because it is what she is supposed to do. What?!?!?!

I think we will have children one day (in like 5-7 years). But it would because we both want to have children. In the mean time, I am actively pursuing a career, hobbies, developing my relationship with DH and living my life.

My value, worth and contributions are determined by my accomplishments and efforts, not what I can push out between my legs (sorry for the crude reference).

Post # 8
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’m pretty sure her religion says she’s not supposed to judge people either.

I say defriend her or at a minimum hide her from your feed.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Stace126:  I’ll sum it up for you:

Your friend is terrified of life.  Life scares the shit out of her.  This is why she needs to assign a “duty” to her role as a female and so vehemently turns to religion to outline her life.  She can lose herself in her duty as a mother and will never have to answer to any of life’s other questions or callings.

I think it’s the saddest thing I’ve ever heard.

 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I was trying to be nice while reading this and think that everyone has the right to their own opinions. Which is true. But ya know what, that is such bullshit! I think kids are friggin awesome and plan to have a few with my husband, but no way in hell is it my DUTY to provide them to him. Hell no. Just like it isn’t ANY woman’s duty to have them if she chooses not to. I can’t help you understand this mindset, because I don’t get it. If you want kids then great, have kids. If you don’t, then good for you too!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@bmo88:  Agree +1,000,000 and I like the crude honest down to earth reference!

Post # 12
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1472 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m a mom and love being a mom but holy crap. That would piss me off! Bleh. That “friend” would be unfollowed…

Post # 13
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4072 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

That’s pretty sad. I’m more than a vagina and a uterus. I’m pretty sure I contribute more to the world than my ability to bear children. And what if I am infertile? Am I worthless? Disgusting.

Post # 14
Hostess
15072 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m pro-life and Christian (ex-catholic) and I’m saying that “friend” is coocoo for cocoa puffs. I would block someone who says that kind of thing. My grandmother would smack a chic for saying something like that, she built planes for the war enabling us to win. Women as baby factories is just a sick thought.

Post # 15
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10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Wow seriously? What a psychopath. I’m not an incubator and that’s definitely not my purpose in life. I’d be mad enough at that to rudely comment something back at her about how she is just a useless brood mare who’s gonna be a stretched out mess if that’s what she keeps on doing.

GROSS.

Post # 16
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10495 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

What about those who are physically unable to give birth?  The lack of compassion that some people have only to cover it with religion disgusts me.

 

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