Post # 1
I am 20 and currently live with my parents while I am saving for a future home. I have accepted and offer to house sit for a friend for 7 days at the end of January. I am excited that although it is only for a short time, I can catch a glipse of living out of home.
However, because I have never lived out of home, do you have any safety tips as a women to be as safe as possible being on my own, especially at night? I know I sound like a big baby, but I am a little wary at the thought of sleeping alone in a house in neighbourhood I do not know well at all.
I don’t want to ruin the experience by asking a friend to stay with me, as I want to be independent as possible. I know I need to suck it up and get used to it but any tips? Should I leave any lights on etc..
n.b- they do have a dog who sleeps inside so I feel a little better having another heartbeat around the house.
Thank you for your help!
Post # 3
I spent much of last year living by myself as my housemate would be away for weeks on end. I was new to the suburb and the city. I grew up in a super safe area in Perth and moved to a slightly dodgy area in melbourne so I know how you feel about wanting to be safe. But really you should be fine. I just make sure your parents/friends know where you are (Obvi) and if it makes you feel safer then leave a light on here or there. Lock the doors and enjoy the freedom of being out of home 🙂
Post # 4
I don’t live alone anymore, but DH is an airline captain so there are times when I’m home alone for several days at a time. We live in a safe area but nevertheless, DH and I are both very safety-conscious and I still have a concealed carry handgun so that I’m never caught in a bad situation with no way out. I see you’re in Australia so I know you have much more restrictive gun laws there and I certainly don’t recommend getting one just because you’re house sitting for a week! LOL
Anways, my best advice (other than keeping the doors locked of course!) would be to turn on all of the exterior lights at night. Criminals are much less likely to target a house that’s more lit up than other houses in the area. And learn a bit more about the neighborhood, maybe it’s safer than you realize and you don’t have a lot to worry about! Or maybe it’s more sketchy, but then at least you’ll know to be extra vigilant. If that is the case, I think it’d be worth the peace of mind to have a friend stay with you.
Post # 5
I used to live in a really shady area of Minneapolis. Whenever I was alone overnight I made sure to lock and chain the door (didn’t chain it when my roommates were around because it would lock them out). I also tried not to walk alone at night, I’d have my friends walk me part or all of the way home. Often we’d walk back to my best friend’s place and he’d give me a lift home. I also took a self-defense class before moving into the area. As long as you keep the doors locked and walk with confidence (try not to walk like your afraid or a victim because body language is a big part of picking targets) when out and about you should be fine.
Post # 6
My partner regularly works away Mon-Fri we have our own place and im 22 I dont mind it…sometimes I get a little bored but you just get used to it after a while. I cant give any advice on safety sorry as im rubbish and never lock my front door…we do live in a small village in the UK though so its not like a town or city.
Post # 7
@AussieSummer: I’m a big baby about staying in the house alone at night for multiple nights in a row lol I live with my FI and when he has to go away for a business trip I take precautions. I make sure all my windows and doors are locked. I leave the porch and carport lights on. I keep my cellphone fully charged by me along with my car keys. I have a really over protective rotty and a handgun so I honestly don’t know why i freak out so much when he is gone lol. I’m just always aware of my surroundings especially during the day!
You really will be fine, enjoy the freedom of living alone and having a house to yourself to watch whatever tv you want and to dance around the living room!
Post # 8
I lived alone from the age of 19 until 23 (through most of college). I have a roommate now that I live in a more expensive area, but honestly, I loved living alone. You get used to staying by yourself. Just make sure all of the doors are deadbolted. And I always kept a knife under my mattress. I’m not sure how useful it actually would have been had I been attacked or something, but it made me feel better even so. And having the dog around will definitely help ..especially if he’s a good “guard” dog. My parents have 2 dogs, and if they hear anything unusual, they’ll let you know about it.
You’ll be fine! Have fun!
Post # 9
Try not to think about being all alone in a house and neighborhood thatt is foreign to you. Honestly, I used to get creeped out by myself in a house I lived in for four years with a roommate whenever she wasn’t there. I thought someone was breaking in every time I heard a noise. Just try not to think about it. That’s really the best advice I can give even though it doesn’t always work. If you can sleep with the light on, that’s a good idea too, but I can’t so that doesn’t work for me.