Post # 1
So FI and I were out with some friends over the weekend, when we ran into a girl we went to high school with. This girl was always very concerned with her looks (as most high school girls were, but she was one of the girls who wore heels to school everyday, had to have a full face of makeup on, etc). Anyway, not long after high school (maybe even as a graduation present?) she got a boob job. She is a very sweet girl, not bitchy as one would expect by the crowd she would hang around and how she presented herself, though she is INCREDIBLY ditzy.
Anyway, on the way home, FI and I were talking about this girl and her boob job and I made the statement that I don’t think I could be friends with someone like her (as in someone who has had plastic surgery for pure cosmetic reasons) because I don’t value my appearance as much as she does. (for the record, she is a beautiful girl, with and without makeup/fake boobs/whathaveyou). Then I sort of retracted what I said because I realized it was a little harsh and too judgey. But my fiance agreed with me, saying that we don’t share the same values so being friends with her on a deep level would probably not be realistic.
We began to talk about how we’ve evolved into a society that puts such an emphasis on beauty that girls are getting boob and nose jobs as high school graduation gifts, and what kind of problems this causes for women as a whole.
What do you think about plastic surgery?
Post # 3
I think some people do small things and that improve how they feel about themselves. For some a major insecurity could be their nose and getting a nose job could help them feel more confident and feel more comfortable in their skin. I think some people go too crazy with plastic surgery, but to me it isn’t ALWAYS bad. When I’m in my 50’s I may consider getting a breast lift depending on how the girls look after all that breast feeding. I’m not a vain person whatsoever, but I still want to be attractive when I’m older (I’m not saying older women that don’t have plastic surgery aren’t attractive I’m speaking soley about myself).
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Post # 5
I’d have loved to get a nose job for a graduation present, but I got a trip to France instead lol.
Post # 6
@MichiganGirl24: I have had plenty and will continue to get plenty. If I see an oppertunity for self-improvement, I will be taking it. Breast implants are next, and BF backs me 100%. Since I used to be big, my boobs have gone to shit and I’d like to correct that.
I’d also like to add I have a college education from a private school, write, paint and play several instruments. I’m sure people look at me and assume I’m “ditzy” as well, but I’m really not all that concerned about it. *I* know there is more to me than how I look.
Post # 7
i think its a personal choice and you can’t judge a person’s worth on whether or not they have it. you did sound uber judgy if im honest. I haven’t had any personally, but i know plenty of people who have and it doesn’t make them shallow/incapable of thinking/caring abotu anything else
i think plastic surgery cna be overused, and it get get all tangled up with psychological problems but if somene can afford to fix the giant bump on their nose…or remove a birthmark, or pin back ears – why shouldnt they if it makes them feel better
Post # 9
Who the heck wears high heels in high school? I remember the most “high heel” shoes anyone wore when I went to high school were wedges, but I digress.
I know quite a lot of girls I went to high school with that got boob jobs, but maybe that’s because I live in California, as stereotypical as that is. They were acquaintances, but not girls I was really close with. They’re all friendly, but I couldn’t imagine myself hanging out with them. They’re all into the Hollywood club scene, and I’m just not into that. So for those reasons I don’t try to reach out and socialize with them.
I know it’s judgmental, and I can’t quite put my finger on why exactly I judge harsher, but I think boob jobs are the most vain of the plastic surgery procedures. I guess it’s because I mostly feel like the girls are not doing it for themselves, but for men, and for wanting to be seen as sex objects.
Honestly, I think natural breasts are beautiful no matter big or small.
And it’s so hypocritical because I’ve always badly wanted a nose job.
Post # 10
I have had a nose job and it is one of the best things I have ever done. That’s pretty effed up if someone were not to like me because of that.
Lucky you that you don’t need one. Some of us are born with features that don’t fit our frames.
Post # 11
@vorpalette: I’d really like one soon as well. Nothing crazy, just narrow it out a bit. I’d have gone with the trip, too 🙂
Post # 12
@MichiganGirl24: I think it’s a little silly to not be friends with someone because they value their appearences more then you do. Do you have the exact same values on every single thing in your life as all your other friends do? If you answer yes to that question then you don’t have a very diverse group of friends.
Post # 13
@badabing88: Haha, it was a great trip for sure. I need to get mine straightened and my septum fixed. I think I’m the only one who notices it, but it bothers me because my nose was broken when I was a kid. Boo!
Post # 14
@MichiganGirl24: I have had plastic surgery, and will probably have more, though there’s nothing on my list right now. I see it as self-improvement, pure and simple. I was never an ugly duckling, but I was a typical nerd-type growing up, and I’m happy to have had some help to become the hot and smart girl.
There was no anti-feminist agenda that lured me to get some work done, I assure you.
Post # 15
I can see beyond someone’s insecurities and still be friends with them if they are a good person and they are fun to be around.
Post # 16
Considering my own mother got a “boob job” after my brother and I ruined her boobs from breastfeeding, I don’t look down on people who choose to have plastic surgery. I do feel bad for the people that get so much plastic surgery that it ends up becoming a disaster (i.e. the cat woman). But I don’t think they’re bad people and I don’t see how that makes their values any less than people who choose not to have surgery.