Wondering if this is rude- random question

posted 3 years ago in Home
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t think it’s rude. I wouldn’t eat the fat either!

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

What? No! I’m not going to eat big pieces of fat just to “clear my plate” or whatever. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Not at all! 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Jack Spratt could eat no fat… no, it’s not rude to leave the fat on the plate.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

Not rude at all! FI made me and my mom steak yesterday and he knows I don’t like pink steak or fat. Mom and I swapped steaks and I cut the fast off and he didn’t care! If I were at someone else’s house,I wouldn’t have traded steaks but I still would have cut the fat off! Not everyone loves the fat and I don’t think that’s rude at all!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Leaving nothing at all on your plate is, in fact, considered uncuth.  So is not eating everything.  The former indicates you are gluttonous, and/or that your portion was insufficient.  The latter indicates you dislike, and/or are not grateful for the meal provided by your host. 

So, there is this theoretical perfect amount of food to leave in your plate, indicating that you loved the food enough to finish it all, and also had enough to be sated, and have the decorum not to lick your plate.  It sounds rather like you found your way into that sliver of propriety.

These are also the etiquette surrounding formal meals; so, having a more casual dinner at a close friend’s, basically chew with your mouth closed, and don’t fart loudly and you should be good.  So, no, you were not rude, as I’m sure the occasion was somewhere in between those two. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I would never eat the fat from my steak, it totally grosses me out!!!! In fact if I invited someone over for steak and they had a piece with a big hunk of fat on it (I always cook it with the fat on for flavor) and they ate the whole chunk I would probably think it was a little weird.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Um… no? I would never expect my guests to gag down something they don’t like. I expect the same from them.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I’ll eat healthy things that I don’t particularly like in order to avoid being rude (e.g. beetroot), but I’m not going to clog up my coronary arteries just to clear my plate.  Not that I never eat saturated fat (yay chocolate), but I’m not going to eat a random chunk of it purely to be polite.  You did nothing wrong.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I never understood why people associated eating all their food with being polite. Even if you only ate half, I wouldn’t think it’s rude. Likewise, I would never eat more than I wanted if I were a guest at someone’s house. As long as you don’t spit it out and say “OMG this is nasty!”, I think you are good.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

spiffanee:  You are definitely overthinking it and no, that’s not rude.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

It’s not rude.

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