Post # 1
Easter got me thinking about this-
A friend makes you dinner, say steak. There are a couple of pieces of fat along the edge. You don’t really like fatty meat at all so you cut off the fatty parts and leave them on your plate. Your host, being very kind, clears your plate for you and tosses the fat.
Was it rude to leave fat on the plate like that? Should you just eat everything? I almost feel like leaving it could be insulting to the friend but maybe I’m over thinking it.
Post # 2
I don’t think it’s rude. I wouldn’t eat the fat either!
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
What? No! I’m not going to eat big pieces of fat just to “clear my plate” or whatever.
Post # 5
Jack Spratt could eat no fat… no, it’s not rude to leave the fat on the plate.
Post # 6
Not rude at all! FI made me and my mom steak yesterday and he knows I don’t like pink steak or fat. Mom and I swapped steaks and I cut the fast off and he didn’t care! If I were at someone else’s house,I wouldn’t have traded steaks but I still would have cut the fat off! Not everyone loves the fat and I don’t think that’s rude at all!
Post # 7
Leaving nothing at all on your plate is, in fact, considered uncuth. So is not eating everything. The former indicates you are gluttonous, and/or that your portion was insufficient. The latter indicates you dislike, and/or are not grateful for the meal provided by your host.
So, there is this theoretical perfect amount of food to leave in your plate, indicating that you loved the food enough to finish it all, and also had enough to be sated, and have the decorum not to lick your plate. It sounds rather like you found your way into that sliver of propriety.
These are also the etiquette surrounding formal meals; so, having a more casual dinner at a close friend’s, basically chew with your mouth closed, and don’t fart loudly and you should be good. So, no, you were not rude, as I’m sure the occasion was somewhere in between those two.
Post # 8
I would never eat the fat from my steak, it totally grosses me out!!!! In fact if I invited someone over for steak and they had a piece with a big hunk of fat on it (I always cook it with the fat on for flavor) and they ate the whole chunk I would probably think it was a little weird.
Post # 9
Um… no? I would never expect my guests to gag down something they don’t like. I expect the same from them.
Post # 10
I’ll eat healthy things that I don’t particularly like in order to avoid being rude (e.g. beetroot), but I’m not going to clog up my coronary arteries just to clear my plate. Not that I never eat saturated fat (yay chocolate), but I’m not going to eat a random chunk of it purely to be polite. You did nothing wrong.
Post # 11
Hyperventilate: I feel the same way.
I had this sitiation today and for some reason I just felt..awkward watching my SO’s mom scrape my leftover steak pieces in the trash. Maybe just because she’s his mom and I want to make a good impression, I don’t know.
Good to know you guys agree that it’s no big deal!
Post # 12
I never understood why people associated eating all their food with being polite. Even if you only ate half, I wouldn’t think it’s rude. Likewise, I would never eat more than I wanted if I were a guest at someone’s house. As long as you don’t spit it out and say “OMG this is nasty!”, I think you are good.
Post # 13
spiffanee: You are definitely overthinking it and no, that’s not rude.