Post # 1
I am not waiting but I thought I’d ask you guys since you all are. I wasn’t a girl who was too preoccupied with how I’d be proposed to and I love my proposal story even if others don’t.
I saw this link: http://weddings.weddingchannel.com/wedding-planning-ideas/groom-advice-tips/articles/proposal-dos-and-donts.aspx?MsdVisit=1
I dunno if I agree with everything here. And so some of us in IRL and on the bee seem to think that lots of women are expecting outlandish over the top movie like proposals, and I’m wondering if that really is the general consesus.
I also saw this on a link that was posted on the boards a few days ago:
“And while a proposals are oftentimes private moments, they are increasingly becoming more public affairs. In 2009, 68 percent of grooms proposed privately, while that number dropped to just over half—57 percent—in 2011. Perhaps that’s why 43 percent of grooms meticulously planned the proposal down to the last detail and only 10 percent of grooms “winged” it.”
So waiting ladies I ask what are you expecting/hoping for in a proposal? I put up a poll is some really descriptions as to what I thought those things mean. Please don’t take offense. I’m not trying to mock anyone or make someone feel bad about their preference. I’m just really curious as to what the general consensus is.
Post # 3
I haven’t thought about it much, but I do know I’d rather it happen when it’s the two of us alone or when we’re around strangers. I definitely want to enjoy the moment with just him right away, and doing that with friends/family around wouldn’t give us that chance to enjoy it. I’ve talked to him about it just a little bit, and he feels the same way. I’d probably be surprised more with a public proposal, but no matter how he asks I know I won’t be disappointed.
I might feel this way because we’re almost engaged now, he’s just waiting to finish school to make it official.
Post # 4
I know we are going to New York for a holiday in April and he plans to ask me then. so whether it be on the top of the Empire State building, in a restaurant, or Central Park. That’s up to him. I am just so amazed to be thinking of our engagement. So very excited. Just got to keep saving for the holiday of a lifetime with my honey.
Post # 5
I have no idea when SO is going to propose, but I’d prefer quiet, him and I. I get embarressed really easily and he knows that and teases me that it’s going to be in front of a ton of people. Either way, I’ll be so happy that he finally proposes, but if I could choose, I think I’d prefer something intimate, romantic, yet meaningful.
Always wanted to go in a hot air balloon! (He knows that)!!
Post # 6
I would definitely want it to just be the two of us..(no family or friends around… Most certainly no FAMILY around! Lol) and we haven’t ever discussed this so I hope he feels the same way.. One always worried to myself about his parents being there bc they are soooo close.. I honestly dread this a little but I just have to hold they wouldn’t be there 😉
Ideally if I had my dream proposal it would be while away on vaca somewhere.. Maybe the beach 🙂 or at this little bench in this park by my work.. Its where he first told me he loved me.. We call it “our” bench… Awwww 😉
That would be simple yet so romantic and meaningful!
Post # 7
Thank you for your input so far! So it looks kinda split for votes at the moment but it seems most of you that have posted want something private, cant wait to hear about all your engagement stories when your partners finally pop the question!
Post # 8
When SO and I were in that young/ reckless/ in love stage (not that we’re not still young and in love but you know what I mean) early on, he asked me to marry him while we were still in bed the day the morning he was supposed to fly back hom after visiting. He had given me a ring (intended to be a promise ring) two days earlier when we were walking in downtown Seattle from the Space Needle. He had been asking me for weeks and I told him I would say yes, but he still had to ask me in six months (we had a ridiculously fast time frame at that point o.O) but I could tell he was serious at that moment and so was I. But we quickly realized we could not get married by our one year anniversary. That was just a bad idea (oh teenage love!) so we decided to be unofficially engaged but then we got into a fight around New Year’s 2012 and the unofficial engagement hasn’t been mentioned since (a future together has, many times, but never with any labels) so I think I’m kinda back to waiting. But I’m ok with that 🙂 I posted something here a few months ago about being ok with it. But anyway, I think I’d like our actual engagement to be on the private side- either at home/ in our hotel room (ideally he’d take me somewhere!) or in a more secluded/ private/ quiet area so even if there were other people in the general vicinity, it would be just us.
Post # 9
I havent really thought about it, I guess it doesn’t matter if it’s private or public, I would just prefer that he put serious thought into the actual proposal and that it was meaningful.
I actually mentioned to him just yesterday that my dream proposal would never be able to happen after the end of the month. I told him that the ideal place for a proposal would be the store I worked at where we first met – it’s closing down at the end of July 🙁
He responded by saying he already knows how he plans to propose…
Post # 10
first option for me, cos i want it to be private (don’t feel good when there’s too many people around) and also i’m scared of heights. what if i drop my ring from up there? omg! lol.
Post # 11
I guess I’m the oddball. I’ve always dreamed of a public proposal, but no jumbo tron or anything like that. I just think it would add so much to the “rush” of it all. I’ve dropped hints about how I’d love to be proposed to at the fountain at dark outside of our favorite restaurant (they light it up and it looks so gorgeous). It’s semi-private, as there are people there but we don’t know any of them, and it’s not a packed place.
But ultimately it’s up to him and I’m sure I’d love it even if he proposed in bed or on the couch. He’s just admittedly not good at coming up with ideas so he was really happy when I threw him a few to get him started.
Post # 12
I don’t care if it’s understated or over-the-top, but I would love to be proposed to in public. I feel that since we’ve talked about marriage privately multiple times, and I already know he plans to marry me, and he already knows I’ll say yes, and we already have a general timeline… Making the engagement “official” is largely about announcing our intentions to everyone else, and so it seems to make sense to start off in public. (Anyway, SO is a bit of a ham, so I’m fairly sure he’ll want to be a little showy with his proposal when the time comes.)
Post # 13
To be honest, I really don’t know – it could be either private or public, understated or over the top. I do know that it will happen when we are in Vegas next year which does make the public and over the top much easier to do lol
EDIT: And I really don’t have a preference
Post # 14
Ours was private and understated. Anything else would have felt awkward and forced for us. It was perfect for who we are!
Post # 15
My fiancee proposed to me at a park in Paris. It was amazing and makes a great story. I picked private and over the top it was in Paris. However, it was casual we were just walking in the park after dinner when he popped the question!
Post # 16
I don’t want something public and luckily neither does BF. All I want is something special and to have a story… whether that’s a quiet romantic moment or something more over the top we shall see…