(Closed) won’t get into grad school and it’s not my fault!

posted 7 years ago in College
  • poll: How much does that first professor suck?
    a ton : (7 votes)
    27 %
    words can not begin to cover it : (11 votes)
    42 %
    what a b***tch : (8 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 3
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    1498 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Do you have an advisor at the school you are applying at that you can speak with?

    Post # 4
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    5390 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I am so sorry! I am praying and hoping that everything works out. Is there any way you can call the admissions office to tell them what has happened or have that professor call?

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I would call the person who is writing the new rec and see if she can get it in today. The call the school ASAP and tell them you can have it in the mail by today. And just explain the situation. It’s not like your 4 weeks late on this and if they are only waiting on one thing they may make an exception. Just be very sweet about it and if you have to cry, just don’t whine, thats what my sister did and she WAS 4 weeks late!!!

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    She can’t write a letter of recommendation in two days?  It shouldn’t take that long.  If not, I’d suggest maybe writing a form letter of recommendation, and then asking some other professors if they would be agreeable to recommending you. 

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee

    Honestly, with most schools it shouldn’t matter all that much.  If you can get in touch with the professor and ask her to email the letter or give them a quick call to just explain why it will be late that should be more than enough.  If you can’t, just call them yourself, be very apologetic (yes, even if it’s not your fault) and say it will be there ASAP.

    Several of our undergrads applied this year with mishaps, things like this happen and usually the schools have some built in flexibility and understanding.  Just handle it as best you can and don’t freak out because they will probably not respond kindly to freaking out or getting mad at them.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

     What! I’d be SO ANGRY at that professor.  If you don’t want to write a rec…say no in the first place!  However, this sounds like something that the school should understand.  If you have all of the other necessary materials in by the deadline and explain to them your situation, I’m betting they’ll be understanding.  

    So sorry this happened though. 🙁  Hope it all works out.

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee

    PLEASE don’t act angry at the professor, especially since you only asked 2 days ago.  It will be fine but getting angry (well getting angry is fine just don’t act like you are) is the worst thing you can do.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    @troubled: she didn’t ask the original professor two days ago, she asked months ago, and even followed up a few weeks ago.  She has every right to be angry about that one.

     

     

    @heathaah: I would try calling both the old professor and the replacement and telling them that the stuff is due TODAY and you really need it turned it.  Hopefully one will come through… good luck 🙁

    Post # 12
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    2821 posts
    Sugar bee

    Can you call the ‘new’ professor?  She might not be checking her email and if you can get it taken care of before 5 pm it’d probably be best.

    Post # 14
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    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Definitely do not complain to the school about the professor.

    I don’t think this is your “fault” but it is your letter of recommendation.  It is ultimately your responsibility to make sure it is done.  Unfortunately, people (especially academic types it seems) forget stuff all the time. I think if you go the “not my fault” route it will come across as whiny and people will get upset. 

    Post # 15
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Maybe the professor can fax it in for you? so it gets there asap?!

    You can try to get the deadline extended, but i wouldn’t ‘complain’ about the first prof. Ultimately, they see it as your responsibility and I don’t know if they care *that* much b/c they have SO many other students applying. Call and say, “hey my prof said she’d write a LOR, but something came up and i’m having someone else do it. Is it okay if….”. Maybe they’ll put a note in your application

    Post # 16
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    Blushing bee

    Write the letter yourself and have her sign it.  This is completely typical and likely faster and more reliable than having a Prof take full responsibility.  It’s worked for me every time.

    Experience at this: 2 master’s degrees and 90% of a PhD program 🙂

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