Post # 1
Hi bees, I’ve gotta get this out of my system.
The hall we rented for the reception said first that they would be willing to cook a dinner for our small wedding party, and now when I call back they say no, minimum of 50 people. There’s only 16 of us! But the best part, is they also won’t let a caterer in. So they won’t cook for us but won’t let anyone else. I’m so frustrated!
Really all we want to do is go to a restaurant for dinner, but as soon as they find out it’s a wedding we can’t reserve and have to cater with them instead, and the menu is different and so much more expensive! I feel like it’s all a money grab and I’m at a complete loss.
Thanks for listening.
Post # 2
How frustrating! If it’s just 16 of you, I wouldn’t even mention it’s a wedding! That could be a birthday party, or a family get together, or anything else honestly.
That was certainly a frustrating thing when I was planning – I felt like everything was more expensive because it had “wedding” added into the mix!
I hope you’re able to figure something out for your receptiong/dinner! Good luck!
Post # 3
kayvee: That’s strange! Can you get drop off restaurant service and hire servers?
Post # 4
@creativeplannertobe they allow things to be taken in for the reception, but we’re doing a candy bar for that, since we’re having all friends and extended family invited. The dinner though, no,I don’t believe they do.
Post # 5
<div>kayvee: Get two reservations for people in the restaurant at the same time in two different names. When the second person calls to make their reservation, have them ask to be seated next to your table as you are long standing friends. When you get there, ask them to push the two tables together.Or, book a food truck or two to come to the venue- or just across the street. They can’t stop people from going out to get something to eat. Run with it! Make the reception casual and fun.</div>
Post # 6
julies1949: no food truck is going to come to an event for 16 people.
I would jus not tell a restaurant it is a wedding. i’ve been to events at restaurants with more people not celebrating anything.
Post # 7
Rule number 1 I found out: Never say it’s a wedding. Just simply make a reservation.
Post # 8
Atalanta: I guess it depends on where you live. We had one a few weeks ago for 12 people. They don’t normally work at night, early evening actually, and were happy for the extra business at the end of their normal work day.
Post # 9
julies1949: I agree, our neighbors just had a food truck cater dinner for 10 at their house. Business is business.
Post # 10
Just call a restaurant and make a reservation. If they ask what the occasion is tell them because you want to eat, nothing more. It’s none of their business why you’re going to dinner. I’ve work in many many restaurants and I’ve never asked what an occasion was, if they offered up the information then fine, but I’ve never butted my nose into customers business that way. How rude of them.
Post # 11
kayvee: ditto PPs. Don’t say it’s a wedding. If they ask if it’s a special occassion just say no – or say it’s a birthday if you’re trying to get a private room that needs a special occasion. Even better – say it’s an anniversary 😉
Post # 12
Those are good ideas. I guess the only reason we were mentioning it was a wedding was because we would want to take in the wedding cake (small cake, easy to transport). Maybe I’ll have to scratch that and have the cake later.
Post # 13
kayvee: you can say it’s a birthday and bring in your cake. You might have to pay a plate fee (a couple of dollars per person?) but should be okay at most restaurants if you’re already bringing in business.