Word of mouth invite, growing apart and other complications

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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5228 posts
Bee Keeper

If you guys have grown apart, I’m wondering if he’s putting feelers out see if he’s still invited, but hoping he’s not. I’d just tell him no, its been downsized and your sorry, but you’ve had to limit the number of people you’re inviting. Its not like you sent him an actual invite. If you haven’t actually had any real contact in so long, I doubt he’ll be offended.

Congrats on your upcoming wedding OP! 🙂

Post # 4
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885 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would just tell him that due to the size of the wedding, you’re sorry but he won’t be invited.  I’m guessing if you have grown apart he probably doesn’t want to come anyways.  Hopefully that’s the case…. good luck!

Post # 5
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515 posts
Busy bee

Just ask him if he wants to come…and mention that you would not be offended whatever he decides.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

<<didn’t realize I had clicked away from the previous ring thread I was reading… sorry about that ladies>>

 

Post # 9
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3756 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

LOL ummm sorry wrong thread….

Post # 11
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275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@secretbee33:  I think you should take your oppurtunity, because you definitely can’t uninvite him after you’ve re-invited him! He is no longer a part of your life anyway, so I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Guys don’t take this stuff as personally as women tend to, so don’t stress too much. 

Post # 12
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885 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@secretbee33:  Ohh that’s unfortunate.  In that case, just say you and your FI have decide to keep the wedding smaller and are only able to invite very close friends, and leave it at that.  I know you are worried about your mutual friend thinking you are being mean, but honestly no one can fault you for not inviting someone who you aren’t close with anyways.  Hope it works out for you!

Post # 14
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3756 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Since I’m here, I’ll give my .02 lol, I think since you haven’t seen him in so long and your relationship is drifting apart, I would use the “sorry we had to downsize the wedding and can’t invite everyone” excuse and leave it at that. It’s not a lie and it will make your life easier.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@secretbee33:  I say just tell him the wedding has been downsized. I wouldn’t want someone there who had/has feelings for me like that.

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