Post # 1
We want an adult only reception and our budget is for 80 guests. We have explained to both of our families the situation. Btw none of the family members are paying for any of our wedding expenses. For some odd reason my FMIL has been verbally inviting her girlfriends,friends’ families. Etc. I already asked my FI to talk to her about the endless wedding guest list she created. She won’t stop. I am hoping by the time we send our invitations and RSVP cards this is no longer a problem. I am so scared that more people are going to show up thanks to her. We don’t have money to accommodate additional guests. I amconsidering hiring a “bouncer” for our wedding reception to make sure non-invited guests don’t attend the reception. I know this sounds bitchy and many guests may possibly be offended. I just want to avoid the situation where more people attend and some guests can’t find a place where to sit down.
Post # 3
Would just having a seating chart and place cards help this? This service staff could help make sure people were seated at the correct tables, wouldn’t they? I think it more appropriate to have wait staff help do this than have a security guard do it.
Post # 4
I agree with the assigned seating. Also, make sure your FMIL knows that no one not on this chart will be eating. She must not understand how serious you are.
Post # 5
We are having a buffet reception and we do plan to have a seating chart. The staff at the wedding venue is only going to attend food related issues. My FMIL and her circle of friends tend to invite friends’ friends to events. She literally invited 2-3 extended families to attend our wedding reception. She provided date, time and venue location. :-/. I intend to have the bouncer to just let in all guests who are part of our list like the ones at the club