Post # 1
Since we’re having a small wedding (less than 40 people), my parents want to have an “engagement party” of sorts this summer a few months ahead of the wedding to celebrate with the family we aren’t inviting. It’s not really an engagement party or a shower or anything specific, just a get-together with the people who won’t be invited to the wedding (it’s only immediate family and aunts/uncles invited – grandparents can’t make it).
Does anyone have any good wording ideas to put at the bottom of the invite so people are aware coming into it that this is what it is?
We were thinking something along the lines of: “Since we unfortunately cannot invite everyone we would like to the wedding, please join us for an early family celebration“
(NOT looking for comments of “NOOOOOOOOOOO you just CANNOT invite anyone to a wedding celebration where they won’t be invited to the wedding!!!” This is happening at the family’s request.)
Post # 2
Bumping because at the top it says I posted it 7 hours ago…but in my first post it shows 27 mins ago…
Post # 3
The beginning part sounds…not so great. The “early family celebration” part is nice, but the beginning sounds like it could be interpreted as a little mean or harsh, even though it wasn’t intended to be. I am in the same situation right now too, having a small wedding but a party BEFORE, not after. I can’t figure out the wording either and may borrow your latter part for my own 🙂
Post # 4
I haven’t had experience with wording invitations yet but maybe word it like:
‘ Although we are having a small ceremony, we would love for you to join us in an early family celebration”
Post # 5
I get that it’s at your family’s request, but it sounds incredibly rude to be and I would be offended to receive it.
I would not mention anything about not inviting these people to the wedding in the invitation. But, to be perfectly honest, if I were invited to an engagement party and not a wedding, I’d be pretty miffed.
Post # 6
Wow this got dug up for some reason. The party happened a long time ago and my family all said how glad they were they got to celebrate with us without the pressure of having to figure out how to afford the trip for the wedding or feeling bad about saying no. They all worked for the same small family business owned by my mother’s cousin which went under and left them all unemployed, so this was a good compromise between not involving them in wedding things at all and putting that pressure on them. Not sure how this got pulled back up but figured I’d update!