wording for response cards

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

crzyorchid:  I was going to recommend saying something along the lines of dietary needs? I feel like you need to provide this. Sure, it might open upa whole can of worms with allergies but you really need to know if someone is lactose intolerant, has a peanut allergy or needs a gluten free meal. Even though you are doing the alternate drop those people need to be catered for as well as the vegetarians.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2050

crzyorchid:  I would just put A) Beef & Chicken Duet, or B) Vegetarian. If someone has a serious need, they’ll either let you know or come prepared.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2050

crzyorchid:  Actually, if you can find out what the vegetarian option would be, you can use the name so it seems like more of an option and less of a special accomodation. I’m not married to meat — if a veggie option is listed and sounds good, I’m known to choose that sometimes.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

crzyorchid:  That’s all fair enough but what about the people who have a genuine nut allergy (or egg or whatever)? Those things can be dangerous and even the smallest amount of contamination can be deadly. If you don’t want to write “dietary needs” you need to find out a way to ensure people with genuine allergies get a meal they can actually eat.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

We just put dietary requirements: ____________ and let people respond how they felt necessary.

Generally all of the special requests were for vegetarian meals, but we did have some gluten-free requests (and some odd things like “alergic to shellfish”). Luckily our venue can cater to all dietary requirements, but we also made sure that our vegetarian option was gluten-free as well. Your menu options seam relatively safe (we’re going with chicken and beef too!) so hopefully you won’t have too many special requirements.

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

crzyorchid:  I guess that’s where it could just be a cultural thing. In my circle Ihave never seen a wedding response card that didn’t have a place to put down if you were allergic to something (even at weddings that were cocktail parties they asked the question to ensure that everyone was able to at least eat one of the appetizers rather than going hungry). If it’s no big deal to you and your guests then just have a vegetarian check box. But personally I would be pretty peaved if I was lactose intolerant, then went to a wedding to find the two choices both had cheesy or creamy sauce. 

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper

crzyorchid:  I think you really need to consider things like lactose and gluten intolerances, allergies and vegan as well. Like janereaction: said get the venue to make the vegetarian option vegan (therefore dairy free for the lactose intolerant) and gluten free. That way the only person who has to worry are those allergic to vegetables and well they can eat your meat options.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Why are you accommodating vegetarians but no other types of restrictions? Vegetarianism is a choice. maybe you should actually find out how much it would cost to serve a GF meal or a nut allergy. I mean it’s pretty harsh to expect those people to eat beforehand… it might not be as hard as you think to accomodate them  

if you are very set on only accommodating vegetarians, I think having “chicken” “beef” and “meal for vegetarians” as the options will work. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter's Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

I agree with PPs saying “dietary requirements” is the way to go. Vegetarians who accidentally eat meat won’t die but a nut allergy sufferer could, or a coeliac who eats gluten can be really sick because of it.  One of my bridesmaids is coeliac and I will definitely be making sure there are “safe” options for her to eat – I’d feel awful if I didn’t.

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