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The first option sounds fine to me, although I have not researched it.
Are you sure FI's parents don't want to be included on the invite?
How long have they been married for?
I have the same situation.. I don't think you need to use her name if she didn't help raise you.. I in my opinion that makes her a parent and you are not her daughter... so just say you wnat biological parents only. I was 16 when my dad re-married.. I don't think my step mom would expect me to use her name.
I will just be using " along with their parents"
you totally don't have to do your Stepmother's name if you don't want to:
Child of divorced and remarried parents both hosting the wedding
Mr. and Mrs. Christopher Myers
and
Ms. Sarah Myers
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Anne Catherine
etc.
OR
Mr. and Mrs. Christopher Myers
and
Ms. Sarah Myers
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of the daughter of Mr. Myers and Ms. Myers
Anne Catherine
Well, could you ask your dad if he would be totally offended if you didn't put your step-mom on the invite? She didn't give birth to you... I don't have step parents s I don't really understand the situation, but it seems to me that it would be a situation where I would put my foot down.
My friend "Sarah" was in the same situation -- parents divorced when she was a teen, dad is remarried. Sarah likes Stepmom fine, but Stepmom didn't really play a role in raising her. Sarah's invitations read:
"Mr. John Smith and
Ms. Jane Jones
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
Sarah Jones Smith
etc."
Personally, I think that unless you are close to your stepmother (which you said you're not), it's OK to leave her off the invitation. Of course Stepmom should be included in family photos and things like that as your dad's wife, but unless she's heavily involved in the planning/hosting of the event, I think it's not an etiquette faux pas to list only your biological parents.
That said, if leaving Stepmom off will be really upsetting to your dad, go ahead and use the "Mr. and Mrs. Dad's Name" format. It's probably not worth a major family feud!
I did
"Mr and Mrs Louis James KellyV
together with
Ms. Lynn D momsmaidenname
request the honour of your presence..."
Had we paid for a chunk, Id have worded it the same way.
I think either option works. My invitations don't even have Mr and Mrs. They say
Bob and Sarah Smith
joyfully invite you to the marriage
of their daughter
Miss Rain
&
Mr. Rain
Son of Joe and Kathy Jones
Obviously those names are all fake. Just saying a third option might be
Father and Stepmother Last and Mother Last
Thanks!
Fiance's mother (no father is in picture) is noted in the invitation..I just didn't include it in my example, because that isn't the issue.
I agree that my step-mother doesn't even need to be include in the invite. She didn't raise me. They got married 3 years ago. I met her when I was in college. Honestly, If i had my way I wouldn't even mention her. Its a weird situation. We don't get along. She is constantly rude ot me & my fiance. personally, I feel as if she is jealous that My Dad cares about us, and not ONLY about her. She makes SUCH an effort to make her two daughters feel like a family with her & my Dad, and not us.
However, I feel as if I should at least include the "Mrs" so show that my Dad is married. She isn't involved in the planning, but essentially my Dad's money is her money. There is also a lot of history. She was rude nonstop when I got engaged. Yelled at me nonstop for wanting to plan my wedding, etc. My Dad later told me that she was upset because she wasn't mentioned in the newspaper engagement announcement....um she isn't my mother?! UGH. Why would I mention someone that constantly puts my brother, me and my fiance down? Doesn't make sense.
I think I'm going to keep the Mr & Mrs Dad Name....however, I just hope that she won't flip out if I don't say her actual name in it. She will be in the program & in pictures...so she shouldn't freaking care! IM NOT HER DAUGHTER!!
I liked your first choice. I think it's fine to do it without the step-mom's name. If you listed it like this:
Mr. John Jones
and
Ms. Jane Jones
request the.....
You might start a fight. Your dad is married to the woman and they may both resent that wording that obviously leaves his wife out.
First option, absolutely. You're acknowledging her with the Mr and Mrs., and still keeping it "proper" but not mentioning her by name.
I can understand your frustration. Hang in there! You're doing great!!!
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Hi, I need help with the wording on my invitation. The knot hasn't helped me completely, I want to make sure this is ok.
Here is my family: Parents are divorced, Dad remarried. They are both hosting (as are me & fiance). Basically we are contributing financially. I don't get along with my step-mom, and would prefer not to have her on the invite, but I know I need to include her.
THis is what I have (courtesy of the knot)
Mr and Mrs Father Name and Ms Mother request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter........etc
OR do I have to do...
Mr and Mrs. Father Name and Step Mother Name and Ms. Mother request....
Oh, I would prefer not to do the "with their parents" wording. I like the traditional way of signing "their daughter" etc.
Thanks :)