Wording for wedding website: wedding attire?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@hazyleyedbeauty:  Hahahahaha I would just trust your guests, and not worry if they show up in jeans.  Unless you’re REALLY worried.  The reason I laugh is that my husband put up an extremely DEMANDING post on facebook about dress code about two weeks before our wedding…OMG.  So don’t do this:

UPDATE ON DRESS CODE: A cross between Semi-formal “After Five” attire and Cocktail Attire will be the required dress code.

-After Five: means that tuxes are not required, nor are long dresses. An evening wedding (after 6 PM) would still dictate dark suits for him, and a cocktail dress for her. Daytime semi-formal events mean a suit for him and an appropriate short dress or dressy suit for her. 

-Cocktail Attire: means dark suits for him and short, elegant dresses for her. Tailored pants and a fancy blouse would also work well. 

Light colored suits (such as a Seersucker or a nice linen) will also be fine.


Everyone freaked out.

Post # 4
1421 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

For outdoor garden, you might just let them know that the wedding will be outside and to dress for the weather (and to avoid heels!).  A friendly word of warning/suggestion won’t hurt.

Post # 6
10902 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@hazyleyedbeauty:  Unless you are having a black-tie invited or black-tie optional wedding (either of which you would indicate on your reception cards), the formality of your invitations and the time of day of your events generally will be sufficient to suggest to your guests the level of formality of your wedding.

However, there may be situations where you will need to provide more specific details.  For example, I saw a post earlier today where a couple’s wedding will take place in a house of worship that requires that women’s heads and shoulders be covered and where skirts must be below the knee. Those are an example of some very specific requirements of which guests should be aware prior to arriving at a wedding.  Also, if your ceremony is taking place on grass, it would be courteous to convey that fact to your guests, as many women would prefer to wear a wedge or flat shoe rather than to attempt to navigate soft ground in high heels.

Post # 8
633 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Commenting to follow! I feel I may struggle with a dress code when my time rolls around due to attire I’ve seen at recent weddings…

@peachacid:  That’s hysterical! 

Post # 9
1506 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@hazyleyedbeauty: We are having a backyard, but very nice wedding. This is what my website says: 

“We want all of you to be as comfortable as possible, so we ask that your attire be semi-casual (did I just make up a word?).

For the gentlemen, this may mean khakis or slacks and a button down shirt or polo.

For the ladies, you may want to wear a sundress or a blouse. Also ladies, since we will be in a grassy area, you will probably be more comfortable in flats or sandals rather than high heels.”

Post # 10
5160 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I found this to be sort of a conundrum.  Most people know what to wear and don’t need help.  Those who do, you tell them the dress code then they don’t know what to make of it.  It’s sort of a catch 22. 

It did not matter how many ways I described to my MIL what to wear (which basically boiled down to “A DRESS THAT YOU LIKE!”) she still claimed to be confused.  How is that confusing?  Finally she just bought herself a dress.  She looked great.  Honestly woman, you dress yourself every day, how hard is this?

I would just mention semi formal somewhere on your website and leave it at that.  If you can’t find a good place to put it on the website, just leave it off and assume that anyone who isn’t sure will ask around.

Post # 11
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@hazyleyedbeauty:  This is what was on my website:
Suggested attire:

Cocktail/semi-formal attire is encouraged. Be sure to bring your dancin’ shoes!

Guests got the point. 🙂

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