WORDING help-Money instead of gifts-for website

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: When you "asked" for money, what percentage of your guests gave you money?
    75%-100% : (10 votes)
    63 %
    around 50% : (1 votes)
    6 %
    25%-45% : (1 votes)
    6 %
    less than 25% : (4 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
    5160 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Yeah…there is no polite way to say this.

    I suggest you put nothing about gifts or a registry on the website and spread the word through your mom that money is prefered.  People will usually get the picture.

    Post # 6
    8282 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Oh no, you didn’t just say that you want people to contribute to paying YOUR student loans?!?!

    Post # 8
    2358 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    De ja vu

    Post # 9
    147 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    In Australia, ‘wishing wells’ are very common, and I can’t remember the last time I got something off a registry.

    So just say that a wishing well will be provided.

    DO NOT mention student loans.

    Post # 11
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I think it’s really regional.  I got married in the South and most of guests preferred to give gifts.  That being said, if you need money that badly I wouldn’t count on it from the wedding.  We spent far more than we received.  Weddings aren’t meant to be a moneymaking venture.

    Post # 12
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I would really not do this at all. You shouldn’t assume you are getting anything, let alone cash to pay off your debts. As a guest, I’d question why you were having a wedding if you owe a yearly salary in debt. This would not sit right with me at all.

    Post # 13
    332 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    This topic has been discussed a lot here on the Bee.  The usual “safe” suggestion is to register for only a few items and spread that you’d prefer cash gifts by word of mouth.  If they’re important enough to you to be invited to your wedding, there has to be someone who can give them a verbal heads up.  Tell your family and wedding party to spread the news if anyone asks what to get you.

    A lot of the people I know would not be happy to be told to give cash, not matter how the request is worded.

    Post # 14
    818 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Don’t say anything about wanting money.  If you don’t register anywhere, people will figure it out.

    Post # 15
    42076 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I can’t answer you poll as we never asked for cash. As a matter of fact we never asked for any gifts of any sort.

    We didn’t have a registry as it is a second marriage for both. All of the gifts we did receive were cash or checks as people were able to deduce for themselves that we didn’t need any more “stuff”.

    Post # 16
    1108 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    If I saw that on your wedding website, I’d be giving you a toaster. 

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